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Hey, I absolutely get that - longing for a simpler point in life, where you didn't have to worry about keeping yourself afloat or about the inequalities that the current world promotes. In fact - I want that feeling back too, where my biggest worries were if I had enough allowance left for sleepover snacks with my cousins and not if I have enough money left to pay bills or if I can get by with 3-4 hours of sleep at times.

While I am not 'stuck' in the past, I do believe that neither are you simply stuck inside the past, because you still pulled through some very tough times. In fact, how you 'relive' the good memories seem good enough (minus the diet, but I'm not exactly better), especially taking some time-out for that summer vacation/holiday feel - I get that.

I salute you too.

I very much understand this feeling. There's plenty of things I do for the same safety of nostalgia reason. It's not altogether a bad coping mechanism, but like every coping mechanism, it has its limits, and you have found them.

I do have some good news for you though:

and realise that ever since that day years ago where I finally made it back to a normal life, I’ve only made 2 new core memories really.

This may not be true at all. People have trouble recalling memories of feeling differently to however they're currently feeling, especially with depression. Good memories are still being created and are in there though, you just can't access them in long storage right now. Another person in the thread said therapy and the right medication, and that is how I've largely managed to get depression mostly under control. When I'm doing well, the good memories are much easier to relive. Memory is complicated like that.

I still eat a diet of mostly instant noodles and other cheap shit

I recommend starting here though. Even if it's just adding in a daily multivitamin at first instead of really being healthy and eating right. The cheap nostalgic food is not something you need to completely give up, but it needs to be a treat instead of your staple. Nutrition has a huge impact on depression, like, an annoying amount of impact. If you can get some better nutrition in you, and a little real sunlight, and even just a short walk, your body is much more likely to generate and circulate the good feeling hormones. It's hard at first, but it does get easier.

You've been through a lot. There's nothing pathetic about how you feel or your life. There is no such thing as "behind". New friends are everywhere, and many have been through similar hard times and depression. But it does sound a lot like you would benefit from a little more balance with the things you already know are good for you.

Good luck. The past is comfortable, but there are new things out there that will bring you comfort too, and they're worth looking for.

Hey buddy, I can tell you straight up that yes I can relate. I often get lost in my memories or nostalgia for my past self and it can be very very hard to get past it. My only suggestion can be what worked for me, therapy and the right medicine.

Therapist helped me work through the WHY of my thinking, and how to turn my mind around to more positivity and a self motivational mindset. Of course I still have bad days where I just cannot do that and that is okay, it's normal and just part of the process.

Medication on the other hand helps me with my actual physiological issues with my mind. Many, but not all mind you, depressed people have real and actual physiological issues in their brains that need to be addressed. For me my brain is unable to or insufficiently able to keep serotonin flowing through my mind long enough for it to have any effect.

My medication thus prolongs the re uptake process, giving my brain longer to use the serotonin and therefore allows me to have a more stable mood.

My one thing I tell everyone about medicine of this kind though is for the love of God, do not decide for yourself "oh this isn't working I'll just stop taking it". It can take MONTHS of the medicine in your system to see it's full effects if any on your mental state, and once started these medicines need to be tapered off of slowly or else you'll experience a fun little thing called "brain zaps" which lemme tell you are not fun. So please work with a doctor to find the right medicine for you, be it serotonin issues, dopamine issues, or any other brain chemicals, and follow their advice.

So please bud, seek professional help in both aspects. If money is a problem which is totally valid then please look into low cost and free clinics, there are many (in the US, only nation I can speak of personally) and the people there WANT to help you.

That's quite an interesting problem to have. I've never been very prone to nostalgia myself, partially due to there not being that many good memories. Not sure how to express this in English... I don't know how I would have handled the whole dropping out, unemployment, being kicked out and being homeless. Or if I would have handled it at all. I'm impressed.

The part I can actually relate to is "I just want to keep barely working and playing games and staying up late forever", while also very much not wanting to be that way. (typing this at 5am) For myself, I've identified the likely problem to be that I no longer have any goals or dreams. There isn't really anything I'd want to work towards, nothing I want to achieve. I can't come up with anything either, so I'm kind of stuck in the present unable to look to the future, just trying to survive day at a time. Whenever I do think about future, I can only think about it in a negative way. I'm curious, how do you view future? Or do you have any leads as to how you might get out of your situation?

If online friends aren't your thing, this won't be of any use, but when it comes to making real friends online... Based purely on my personal experience, I'd recommend some kind of an online penpal site. The ones where people look to chat with people from other countries or speaking other languages, for example. Differences between countries and cultures give a lot of interesting stuff to talk about, and easily leads to deeper conversations. Especially helpful if there isn't much going on in one's day-to-day life. And people there are generally looking for actual friends, more so than in most other online communities. I've made most of my best friendships on sites like that. Some of them I'm still friends with a decade later. (I just now realized it has been that long... damn.)

Even many non depressed people feel like they never really became an adult. Its both a good and a bad thing. I don't know how to break out of the nostalgia. I have something similar but its more fantasizing. I go to work and I do my job but like many of us I often wish when I close my eyes at night it will be the last time and I don't want to get out of bed in the morning. I fantasize about how great it would be to live in a fantasy world. Its not like I really believe I will but its definitely an unhealthy level of thought. My wife and I agree that we are both depressed but not without good cause. Money would eliminate a lot of it although not completely due to medical issues she has. Would make it much easier though. I have a hard time believing depression is not super prevalent the way the world is going. I think most just put on a good face and don't talk about it, like I do, mostly.