A place to post ridiculous posts from linkedIn.com
(Full transparency.. a mod for this sub happens to work there.. but that doesn't influence his moderation or laughter at a lot of posts.)
The title of this post is misleading. She's not blasting her husband. She's wondering why she can't be content without these things.
If you actually read the post, she's not "blasting" her husband. She's seeing him be perfectly content without chasing all those markers of career success, and questioning why she cannot do the same. She's realising that she relies on external validation to feel happy, and that that's not a good thing.
Yeah she doesn't speak bad about him for it. She does pose the question at the end to others if it would change their views of people they knew if they didn't want those types of accomplishments though. She doesn't answer if it does for herself necessarily, so there is not really any clear answer. It's pointless to analyse.
Not only that a whole lot of people here don't have reading comprehension, the level of salt and misogyny are weird and not in a good way..
That’s the kind of people who constantly change positions, switch projects, get promoted etc. The success of the projects depends on stable people like her husband.
That doesn't read as much as blasting her husband as it does as blasting herself.
"There is so much to unpack and learn from an exchange like this."
Yeah, no kidding.
Husband's probably regretting some life decisions right about now, and I guarantee they're not related to his not getting any awards or certifications.
Given that this is a self-promoting self-appointed CEO of a Virginia based IT consulting firm with... very few employees, idk, man. The "husband" in this non-exchange seems like a prop for marketing material.
The last line says it all. She's just selling certification training. None of this is sincere.
Seems like a shitty way to sell certifications because like yeah I would be perfectly fine going a year without getting a certification. Do you have imposter syndrome that bad that you need to waste money in order to feel competent?
It got reposted, which is all that really matters. I'm sure there's some Girlboss middle manager by way of Microsoft or Amazon or Langley who will click with this.
Do you have imposter syndrome that bad that you need to waste money in order to feel competent?
This could easily have been chucked out with ChatGPT alongside a dozen other A/B tested solicitation strategies under other accounts with different Avis and company names.
You can't take any of this at face value. Is this company real or is it just a shell to wrangle business for an offshore bulk cert program? Is this profile real or is it a front for a bunch of hustlers in a boiler room? Is this conversation real or is it just some scripted nonsense intended to grab your attention?
I'm betting it's fake top to bottom. Six workers in Indonesia cranked it out along with a thousand other profiles during a 12 hour $20 shift. Responding to it would be as wise as answering a call to Scam Likely and immediately blurting out your SSN.
regardless of sex, anyone making this claim is clearly broken inside. kinda sad.
Right? I feel like this is so obviously not about sex & my life is a clear example to that.
For context, I'm a trans woman who works in tech.
Five and a half years ago I was miserable as hell from relying on external validation. I'd never been happy with my birth sex, but I'd stuck it out for years, duct-taping my happiness together with academic or career achievements, working myself to the bone just to achieve some degree of stability at the cost of my mental health, relationships, happiness, sex life, etc.
For all intents and purposes, I was treated by society as male during that era of my life... albeit of the gay sort of feminine and very depressed variety. I also had a laundry list of accomplishments each year and could not fathom being happy with myself unless I collected them all like pokemon.
Sex changes are like the world's most opposite thing to external validation. I went from being a white cis male to... well look at what society thinks of trans women. There have been many many times in the past half-decade in which I felt like I'd jumped off a cliff, that I might lose my career, that I'd struggle harder to get ahead, that I wouldn't be taken seriously anymore.
And some of that was true—I definitely deal with misogyny and transphobia now in a way I never would've before. I do feel I have to perform 2x better than before in order to achieve the same sorts of recognition... and I have to now for some reason look good doing it (whereas before I could basically ignore my body, wallow in dysphoria/depression, and still be given credit).
But... what have I done career-wise during the past 5 years? I've flatlined. Honestly? I "met expectations" for a half-decade straight. No awards, no accolades, just "did that thing and went home." I was too busy both emotionally and practically with a whole freaking sex change outside of work. And nobody has come to eat me, even though at this phase of my life most coworkers don't even know I was once male. Heck, if anything, I look at a lot of my cis female peers and they're having kids which (unfortunately/unfairly) amounts to practically the same thing.
Before my sex change this would have been unthinkable to me. My entire happiness and sense of identity was pinned to my career. And that was was literally THE duct tape on the joke that was my life. The thing I only way I could manage to keep myself male. Literally the biggest lesson career-wise that my sex change has taught me is that it's okay to have eras in your life where your career just vibes for a bit while you short your shit out.
So... I just don't think this is a male vs. female thing. It's a running away from oneself and trying to cope with your misery via external validation thing. It IS true that when you're read as female you DO have to push ahead. Chances are, similar to how I felt I had to alienate myself for my career in order to get to a place where I could afford a sex change, this woman felt she had to do the same in order to establish herself as a woman in tech. The barrier to entry is higher.
But once you're there and established it's like, girl you can chill now, it's gonna be fine if you're fine, maybe with a bit more stability and a bit less pay.