I'm sorry, is saying to a trans person that they did a great job passing, rude? I thought it would be validating.
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Yes, it's rude, because of all of the things it implies. It assumes our goal is to hide our trans identity, as if that's something we all want to do. It assumes that looking cis is better than looking trans, because otherwise it wouldn't be a compliment.
In short, whilst it's unlikely to hurt the person you're saying it to, it sustains a lot of ideas assumptions that hurt all trans people
Ally question, is it actually offensive to consider someone brave for coming out as trans? Feels like that takes alot of courage.
No but there's a couple subtlies here. If you are calling someone brave, the context is important. It can come off as condescending. Also coming out isn't an all or nothing thing, see here.
Also in this comic they aren't saying they are brave for coming out. They are saying they are brave for being cis. The underlying assumption there being that being cis or trans is a choice that one can be brave for.