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[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 months ago

Nah imma just be thrown onto a burning wood pile

[–] [email protected] 12 points 5 months ago

Reddit is desperate for ads.

[–] [email protected] 20 points 5 months ago

When I'm dead just throw me in the trash

[–] [email protected] 16 points 5 months ago

Paying for it after you need it seems like a bad business plan tbh.

[–] [email protected] 22 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (1 children)

I don't care what happens to my corpse, because I'll be dead then. Never understood, why people still care nowadays, religion I guess.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 months ago (2 children)

Ritual and ceremony are deeply important aspects of the human experience. What cultures do with their dead is way, way up there with foodways and adornment when it comes to cultural significance.

The increasingly common view in the West that elaborate death rites are unimportant is really new when compared to the rest of human history. It's probably a postmodern thing? If I'm right about that, that would mean the less reverential attitude towards traditional deatg ceremony is like 110ish years old.

Compared to the 200,000-300,000 years Homo Sapiens have been around (or 45,000 years ago if we only want to discuss the length of time that Northern European-style deathways have most likely been practiced), 100 years isn't a lot to change that cultural inertia.

Sorry, I know this is a Wendy's. Just a frosty, thanks.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Why the fuck have you been downvoted, that's just a reasonable comment.

May I also point out, your funeral isn't for you. You might not care what happens to your body but your close ones do. A funeral is a place for them to find closure, to grief and mourn your loss. The mere fact that people who cannot retrieve their lost one's body feel awfully about it and still tend to create empty graves should show how much this is a very old desire of importance. The way we perform these death rituals can change and maybe it is not about how a body is being get rid off per se, and surely we could change this. That we as a species are aware of what death means and have found ways to cope with it (i.e. rituals as a coping way to deal with the knowledge) is incredible.

Whenever people say something along these lines of "just throw me in the trash" it feels to me like they didn't get that point. It's not about you. It's about everyone else.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Hey there! FYI I really appreciated this comment. The response to my comment here convinced me that Lemmy isn't really the place for me. I popped back today to look something up, and I wanted to make sure you got a friendly hello after seeing your response.

I totally agree with everything you said. Having shared practices for remembrance and an established "typical" way to demonstrate care for deceased people is a significant part of maintaining social cohesion and so useful for giving individuals an outlet for grief.

The way an entire industry has emerged to capitalize on loss and paij sickens me, but that part is a whole different conversation.

My education is in archaeoligy, and my primary interest was American deathways. I've probably spent more time thinking about contemporary death rites and remembrance than I've thought about anything else as an adult.

Anyway, I hope you're well! Keep on being a cool person.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 months ago

This was such a nice reply, thank you, it really made my day (probably even two days). How sad that lemmy lost you, but I think I get it. It's not 100% my vibe either. Maybe one day it will change in a way that makes you want to try it out again. I'm probably typing this into a void but just in case you pop in again you, as well, deserve a friendly hello.

And I really hope you pop back in because frankly, having an archeologist who specialized in deathways is super interesting. I imagine you have so many things to tell. How are American deathways different from other cultures? What stands out? How did Native Americans influence the settling Europeans, and vice versa? Was there any influence to begin with? How did it change over time? What is the most heartfelt detail about how the dead were/are handled that might be special to that culture, in your opinion? What is the most grotesque aspect? How has your studies influenced how you view death itself, and how has it influenced your view on funerals? What would you do if you emigrated into a vastly different culture (in regards to last wishes etc)? What are the most common misconceptions, fun facts, and what touched you the most? And why exactly did you end up specializing in such a field anyway?

I realize I'm probably asking these questions into a void, but man, should you ever be back here - let me know how I can read up on your work, ok?

You remind me of a PhD candidate I met when working for theater and he was writing his thesis on Russian folklore fairy tales, and told me that he noticed a pattern of a circular repetition of themes in each story. I wish I remembered his name and were able to look up what he published, but I don't, and it saddens me that I missed out on such an interesting topic that I would have wanted to know more about. It seems like I will miss out once more. (Hey, is that a circular repeat?)

[–] [email protected] 12 points 5 months ago

You can have the ceremony without being ripped off for thousands of dollars on a box nobody will ever see again

[–] [email protected] 38 points 5 months ago (2 children)

You never see these meme quality ads with a € or £ price... its always $

[–] [email protected] 0 points 5 months ago

it's* always $

[–] [email protected] 13 points 5 months ago (1 children)

That's because America is Ferenginar.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 months ago

Quark: I think I figured out why Humans don't like Ferengi.

Sisko: Not now, Quark.

Quark: The way I see it, Humans used to be a lot like Ferengi: greedy, acquisitive, interested only in profit. We're a constant reminder of a part of your past you'd like to forget.

Sisko: Quark, we don't have time for this.

Quark: You're overlooking something. Humans used to be a lot worse than the Ferengi: slavery, concentration camps, interstellar wars. We have nothing in our past that approaches that kind of barbarism. You see? We're nothing like you... we're better.

DS9, The Jem'Hadar (1994)

[–] [email protected] 19 points 5 months ago

Casket+ includes a lid! Only $59.99/hour (surge pricing if used between hours of 10pm and 8am)

Don't you love your dead relatives? Or are you cheap?

[–] [email protected] 8 points 5 months ago

Better buy one now before they’re subscription only.

[–] [email protected] 36 points 5 months ago (3 children)

Graveyards are a waste of space & good land. Land is for the living. Cremation is the way; it is clean, responsible, & considerate.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Clean? I would have said burial was more environmentally friendly.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 5 months ago (1 children)

If they didn’t pump the bodies full of toxic chemicals and store them indefinitely in a piece of furniture, maybe.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Good points.

I will specify organs donated and Eco friendly coffin without embalming.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 months ago

I’m leaning towards one of those fungus suits, hopefully with a mango tree planted atop.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 5 months ago

I'd like my ashes to go into a firework and be spread out all over my local area. Go out with a bang!

[–] [email protected] 20 points 5 months ago (3 children)

. I'd rather be harvested for any useful organs if I have any left healthy enough to save someone, then the rest of me thrown in some kind of corpse compost or bio reactor or something.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 months ago

If you don't have any useful organs, I imagine you can still be used as a cadaver for medical students.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 months ago (1 children)

There are composting options now I think.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 months ago

Yes, it's also called Natural Organic Reduction or terramation. This would be my dream.

When I die compost my body and use the compost on a tree in the garden or spread it in a natural reserve. This way if my relative want to visit my grave they go in nature rather than going in a gray cemetery full of concrete.

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