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Daily discussion thread: 🐔 Wednesday, May 8, 2024 (aussie.zone)

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 6 months ago (1 children)

The days are getting better. Things I am grateful for :)

Today I got a chocolate covered croissant with a friend. She gave me a gorgeous terrarium with a pink philodendron for my birthday and other pink leafy plants. Without even knowing that I love those plants, she thought it would be perfect for me.

Called a friend from work for an hour.

Cried in a soundproof pod at uni and am so grateful that I got to sit in one of those.

Journalled a bit and realised how grateful I am that I don't have to be anxious anymore waiting for someone to show me that they love me. I also don't have to go around catering to an extremely judgemental and picky person's tastes, like music, movies, places to eat. He was very snobby about these things. I feel so free.

I added items to my achievable bucket list. Visit the DMZ between the Koreas and try pole. Two very different things. For some reason, I went down an internet rabbit hole on North Korea a couple of years ago. Would recommend listening to The Lazarus Heist podcast if you're interested in the DPRK.

I deleted Instagram because I know I would unfortunately stalk my ex and his company. I am no longer doom-scrolling through sad breakup reels and other things that are a waste of time. I have experienced the JOY of missing out. Thought it would be super difficult to give up social media like that but it is helping me live in the present moment. It's so freeing to consume YouTube and movies as opposed to solely short-form mind-numbing content. Gives you more to talk about too. I am keeping in contact with maybe five friends over text and the others? It helps you realise who really has your back. Quality over quantity. My friends have been screenshotting pictures of cute animals to send to me, and although I'm sad I can't return the favour like that, it makes me happy.

Doing my assignments is still really difficult. I will try to apply for extensions.

Tomorrow I am visiting the GP and then the day after, I am touring a gym that's nearby.

I am looking forward to getting myself back. I might cry tomorrow. I might agonise over the future or the past. But whilst it hurts, this change is one of the best things that I think has happened to me. I am so relieved for some reason.

Feel free to add to my list hehehe

[–] [email protected] 6 points 6 months ago

There's gonna be a new community on aussie.zone about health and fitness so make sure you join. Be kind to yourself and do nice things for you. I think you've got everything covered.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 6 months ago (3 children)

le vent/le thoughts

Ugh, I need to socialise with friends more. There's a meetup at a pub on Friday that my partners mates are going to and have invited us (and others). Partners ex-coworkers from an old job, have hung out with them heaps over the years.

I just want to hide away forever, like the longer I go without seeing mates the less I actually want to. Which is bad for my mental health, bc I usually justify it with self-destructive thoughts (like "you're not that funny or smart", "you're jobless so what's there to talk about?", "they just pretend to like you because they like [partner]", etc). Which is not healthy.

Wish I was socialised more as a kid, honestly, some of this I can tell is because I didn't have friends when I was a youngun

Of course this is all dependent on whether we're negative come Friday arvo, but I already feel dread and am wrestling with myself about this.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Hi friend

[–] [email protected] 4 points 6 months ago

Hello, I have neglected you. This shall be amended in the coming weeks 💜

If partner and I are well, you are welcome to join us at the pub too this Friday arvo of course :)

[–] [email protected] 6 points 6 months ago (1 children)

This is highly dependent on transport/partner also being willing to leave (and I know how hard it can be for adults to get together). But is it possible to go for just an hour or two and then leave?

[–] [email protected] 5 points 6 months ago

I have also done this before lol, this is definitely an option as where I am and where the pub is, is very much serviced by a lot of PTV.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Sometimes just getting out and listening to others is enough.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

True true! I have done that before and had a lovely time each time.

I think it's just, like, the depression. The simple chores, the simple self-care, the simple socialisation, is difficult to start but easy once I'm actually doing it.

I'm like an old lawn mower that required a good amount of arm strength and willpower to keep pulling the cord and pushing the machine at the same time to start, but once started, I'm revved up

[–] [email protected] 5 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

I've been poking through old emails for a while and found my old library card number. Out of curiosity I logged in (apparently they don't shutdown your account after 2 years like the others I've been with). Apparently I forgot to return an item and my accounts been barred with a $50 fee. Honestly not as bad as I was expecting, although I don't remember them ever emailing me about it.

Apparently they've also rebranded which is nice. I remember them as being a drab grey building with "area library corporation" written on it. Apparently they've dropped the corporation part of it and redecorated, which is nice

Edit: the book is over 6 years overdue, so at least it's not a monthly fee 😂

[–] [email protected] 10 points 6 months ago (7 children)

People who send each sentence of their message

In seperate text messages

Instead of compiling all thoughts into one text

So you receive a bunch of texts and notifications at once

Annoying or acceptable?

[–] [email protected] 5 points 6 months ago (4 children)

Unhinged is the word you’re looking for.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 months ago (1 children)

You know?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 months ago

Haha I just saw this. I was considering doing the same gag😂

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 months ago

Change my way of communicating

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 months ago

Look, like, I can't just

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 months ago

Mate

[–] [email protected] 4 points 6 months ago (1 children)

I tend to do this. It's just natural to me. Much of my communications early were via text on like games or messaging apps. It's just how my thoughts come out idk

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago

Same.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago

Annoying, but Mr P is dyslexic and he finds it easier to process this way. I occasionally miss one of the msgs.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago

Since i barely use my phone i never even thought about it

plus i have my settings for no notifications

[–] [email protected] 5 points 6 months ago

I don't mind tbh. Interestingly Android 15 is adding "notification cooldown" feature, will see where they take it

[–] [email protected] 6 points 6 months ago

Annoying but understandable sometimes. What I don't like is when 3 messages are sent in less than 30 seconds with one being HELLO?

[–] [email protected] 5 points 6 months ago

Annoying, but in my defence, I had a friend who would refuse to read anything longer than about 3 sentences.

Putting them into different messages fixed that.

Unfortunately, that's a habit that has stuck with me even though I don't even talk to them anymore

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