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[–] [email protected] 4 points 9 months ago (1 children)

I'll make tomorrow's thread because I'm awake.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 months ago (1 children)

thank you so much

when I'm better I'll start doing the threads again

[–] [email protected] 1 points 9 months ago

No worries. Someone will have to the next one cos I gotta get up extra early tomorrow but I'll post about that later.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (4 children)

I might be breaking up with my boyfriend the next time I see him.

I think I put in much more effort. I go to his house because I have my license (he never got his). He doesn't text me to make sure I get home safe, so I might as well have just left his house and see how long it took him to notice I wasn't reaching out to him. On that note, I generally am the one to reach out first. Listen to him talk about himself and his interests. Today I listened to him explain about how a sound mixer works because he was so excited about it. Yet the whole card thing. He couldn't even write me a bloody card after he said he would.

Most recently, he's been ignoring my text messages if I've sent long stretches of messages. He will leave me on read for ages or just not reply, which makes me feel like he doesn't give a shit about him. And today when I brought it up, he just said, "Do you want me to go back and read all of those from ages ago?" making me feel like I was in the wrong. Not even a "I'll reply later". His excuse was that he gets overwhelmed by long stretches of text. HOWEVER, if I ask something about him or his day, he has no trouble talking about that. Selfish prick.

I got so pissed at him today that I gave him an ultimatum over fucking text message. I told him why I was mad and said if he doesn't step up his game, we are over. We have a musical to go with tickets THAT I GOT HIM FOR HIS BIRTHDAY and then I AM FUCKING DONE! I AM GOING TO SUCCEED IN LIFE AND I AM NOT GOING TO LET ASSHOLE IMMATURE BOYS STOP ME.

Thank you and good night.

DRAMATIC EXIT in style of ANGSTY TEENAGER

Not a teenager but I almost feel like one right now sadly. I shouldn't have to revert back to such an awful period in my life.

I might go and get my nails done (even though that's kinda silly and I've never done that) and head to the gym to feel better.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

The guy is an idiot.

He doesn't seem to know how precious it is to have a loved one speak, to have a loved one share. That sharing is what makes intimacy, is what informs.

People who love you want to know.

I could listen to my loved ones all day. 😻

That said, I come from a background where no one was interested in me so I don't know how to do it, I had to teach myself ( so I am very imperfect)

So maybe he doesn't know how.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

That's not how you treat someone you're invested in (his behaviour). He comes off as a user type. Getting you to do all the legwork, all the listening, getting you to buy him things...

It's a shame about the tickets as he doesn't deserve them. But you can always just dump him now?

Edit: I'm sorry to speak so plainly. But seriously, fill the gap he occupied with something that feeds you or advances your life, he's 'there' but is really just taking from you.

It's pulling down your self esteem and the amount of time spent traveling to him and thinking about him means you won't be able to accomplish something else. Like building a real support network, studying for a qualification, meeting a genuinely good guy, or working towards a career change. In your 20s that time is so valuable.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Just re-reading this message :)

It's only now that I realise how much he was taking from me. You're right - I don't have to be held back anymore!

Thanks for your support!

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

No problem. I know it's hard but keep trying to build a good life for yourself

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7h6EqKJqadU

[–] [email protected] 5 points 9 months ago

Yasss! You go… You deserve better, get it.

Remember, we accept the love we think we deserve.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 9 months ago (1 children)

or go to the musical with a friend

[–] [email protected] 5 points 9 months ago

I wish I could but I already gave him the tickets :(

Rookie mistake

[–] [email protected] 4 points 9 months ago (2 children)

Watching the Malcom Turnbul doco on ABC and it’s a real bitchfest. Barnaby Joyce called Malcom a shithead, and Malcolm has called Dutton a thug.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 months ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 2 points 9 months ago

Yes that one.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 9 months ago (2 children)

Nothing will top Jeff Kennett calling John Howard a cunt to his face

I said, “Tomorrow John” and he said, “I know where your sympathies lie”, and I said, “I couldn’t give a fuck. I have no sympathies any more. You’re all a pack of shits and tomorrow I’m going berserk”. Well he went off his brain and in the end I said to him, I said, “Howard. You’re a cunt. You haven’t got my support, you never will have and I’m not going to rubbish you or the party tomorrow but I feel a lot better having told you you’re a cunt.”

https://australianpolitics.com/1987/03/23/kennett-peacock-car-phone-conversation.html

[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 months ago

Imagine if the politicians cared about running the country as much as they did about back stabbing and name calling and power jostling.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 9 months ago

Lol wow they dropped a few c bombs in that conversation.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

I saw a $10 Kmart paint set that includes a few cheap brushes and tubes of medium... but my attempts at blocking in on the drawing app didn't look good. I also don't know how to mix/choose colours yet, and the chance of my sheets and my cat participating in the creative process are non zero. There may also be a sip of paint water on the cards.

Must... not... collect... more hobby clutter

I haven't even done another test run with the charcoal because I'm physically wrecked and spend all free time sleeping

[–] [email protected] 2 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

Kmart paint isn’t worth bothering with. It has no depth and doesn’t blend properly. Brushes don’t need to be super expensive, but anything that cheap will shread in 2 minutes. Digital is totally different! Cats will drink paint water, it is inevitable. As are some unwelcome signatures 🐾

[–] [email protected] 2 points 9 months ago

May I recommend these? Lots of colours, not crap and very not clutter. Grab one small pointy brush and one narrow flat one, or a cheap set Plenty to figure out if you like the hobby. These two pics will get you under $30. portable watercolours beginner brush set

[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 months ago (1 children)

This conference has gone downstairs, we used to get fed!

[–] [email protected] 4 points 9 months ago (1 children)

the only point of any conference is the food

[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 months ago

This one is actually bloody good on the learning things and being interesting front. Not all schmoozing nonsense. Don’t mind a free rice paper roll though.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 9 months ago

Coming to the end of my Wondefalls rewatch, and Fox really did invent the "fucking with a good show for no reason" model.

Also Caroline Dhavernas only being in like three good shows (Wonderfalls, Hannibal, Mary Kills People) will never not be a travesty, I'm always so drawn into whoever she's playing when I watch her in something.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

I have a new art project I've been thinking on a few weeks, now I have my ideas on paper and have a plan. Have some skills to learn but that's always the case. I am calling it The Spud Project. 🥔🩶🖤🩵

[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 months ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 2 points 9 months ago

I hope to be able to share it with all of you once it's done. 🖤

[–] [email protected] 8 points 9 months ago (4 children)

Ah man... I feel like I have a tendency to accidentally stick my oar in a lot, or sound like a know it all. Just know it isn't intended that way. I have little pieces of random info and am trying to contribute to the convo, tend to infodump, or am genuinely trying to help. I'll rein it in.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 9 months ago

We like it! That's why we recruited you over here!

[–] [email protected] 5 points 9 months ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 4 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

sees an opportunity to contribute

jumps in boots first

At least I do

[–] [email protected] 5 points 9 months ago

Yeah. Taught myself to shut up in person. Perhaps too much so. Not online.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

infodump is what this place is for, please don’t rein it in

[–] [email protected] 4 points 9 months ago (1 children)

You have no idea what you're unleashing

[–] [email protected] 5 points 9 months ago

i look forward to it

[–] [email protected] 6 points 9 months ago (2 children)

Noo, I love it. It's personality. It's positive and comes from a good place. We are all happier for you posting here. 🤗😘

[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

What Seagoon says!

[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 months ago

Thanks Seagoon

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