Update: So far i'm down to 2 extensions:
Ublock
600% sound volume
Memory still ballooned from 1GB to 5GB.
When I checked processes before closing, even after force unloading Youtube under processes, GPU was using around 1 GB. There was literally nothing else I could unload that would stop this.
Again I loaded all tabs just to be fair...GPU is using half of that currently. I'm also questioning the reliability of about:processes to an extent, because I couldn't actually see what was adding up to the 5 GB I was seeing in task manager.
I also tried some advice I saw to just whitelist youtube, as it sounds like google does something regarding adblockers. But this did not seem to do anything noticable.
edit: based on another post, trying troubleshoot mode, though i'm always uncomfortable having all site blockers (ublock now) turned off.