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Anon assesses his life (sh.itjust.works)
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[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

I've noticed friends chose their faith themselves. I've lost four really good friends, that I've known for 15+ years, by them just not talking to me anymore. That's it, no angry shout-out, no "oh you changed a lot", no complain about me trying to contact them or any remarks on why they might not want to hang out with me. They just never go online anymore and don't reacting to the phone to trying to hang out. I know they aren't dead, as other people I still know are in contact with them.

My conclusion is, that a lot of people don't know anymore what friendship is and that they destroy this themselves until they are old but have no one left to hang out with but shallow TikTok level of friendships.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Some people vanish because they struggle with life. Maybe that's not relateable for everyone, but sometimes people do not have the energy to maintain friendships. There is nothing that you can do on your end but there also is nothing they can do on their end.

From addictions to mental crisis, autoimmune disease or chronic pain there is so much that can suck a person dry. Also all kinds of family and relationship issues.

Sometimes the difference between the friends these people still have contact with and those who they don't have contact with comes down to marginal differences like living close by and crossing ways regularly.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago

This is me. I barely have the energy to get through each day. Maintaining friendships feels like an impossible mountain to climb. Being an introvert plays a large part in this as I feel more tired after hanging out with friends. In truth, friendship has almost always felt like a burden more than a benefit to me. I kept them because I had to, or I was supposed to. I don’t feel like I’m missing much now.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (2 children)

Don't have friends and my wife is cold as ice. Kinda want to go to sleep and not wake up

[–] [email protected] 3 points 11 months ago (1 children)

The hell are you staying with her for? You've got one fucking life. Get yourself away from that toxicity and maybe you'll find life isn't that bad after all.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

I agree with the sentiment but it is easier said than done - splitting finances, houses, assets, debts etc is a mahoosive pain in the arse, and may well be perceived as less of an evil than actually putting up with the daily shit.

Ultimately though I do agree, it doesn't change without some fundamental movement - either recover what relationship you have with the wife, or start planning a 12 month strat to get your shit in order and pivot to a more single lifestyle for a while.

Good luck bro/broette. You got this, and we're happy that you're here.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago

Better to spend a year prepping and live happier than spending a lifetime being miserable.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 11 months ago

Get some help, my friend. I have found the darkness of depression to be a false darkness. Life can be pretty good, we want you to be there for yours.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Kids shifted my priorities.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago (2 children)

As they should if you're going to be a parent that's worth a damn. You sir, seem to be worth a damn.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago

Thanks bud. Been a hard fuckin year and we were lucky enough to have a happy baby that sleeps like the dead. She turns one in 10 days. Damn.

[–] [email protected] -1 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I never understand why we congratulate people for procreating. There are about 8 billion people and they all have the animal desire to make more people, big whoop mate. Have they made any other notable contributions?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago

They aren't being congratulated for procreating. They are being congratulated for having the right mentality around procreating (in that it is a sacrifice that requires at the least consideration prior and commitment after in order to make a good human to carry on the species).

[–] [email protected] 5 points 11 months ago

If you have a partner, you have a friend.