True in my case. When my wife wants a particular piece of jewellery for her birthday, the only way to make me realise is to slam my head down on the counter next to it and say "THIS. I WANT THIS."
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Hints are great if what you look in a partner is the ability to solve puzzles. Otherwise, they should be skipped. Proper communication is key to any successful relationship.
If all you can do is hint, you don't deserve to get laid. You have to put yourself out there if you truly want to make a connection.
If you get a “hint” wrong you could end up having a meeting with HR, being told to “fuck off, creep”, or some other negative result. So men might see what could be a hint, but the price of getting it wrong is too high for many reasons. So you either stop looking for them or just stop acting on anything that isn’t direct.
It’s also kinda the woman placing the responsibility and the work on the guy for making the “real” moves in an encounter or relationship. He needs to pursue her and pay attention, not the other way around.
Very well put.
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Some of us are just bad at picking up on hints, whether they come from women, men, or grizzly bears.
Hints are bad, my relationships have all been with people who say what they want in plain English.
One problem is that it's very socially unacceptable to mistake not-a-hint for a a hint. Maybe people should stop trying to 'hint' and be more direct.
This right here. I do not try to take any hints. If you like me say so.
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I'm a woman and not so good at picking up anyone's "hints". And when I do try, it rarely ends up being the intended hint.
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I'm male, and bi. I'm about equally bad at picking up on hints from men and women, but it seems more common with men to just flat out state what they want, either immediately, or after I miss their clue, which I'd presume to be cultural.
I'm bad with social clues in general, so I dunno if it's a male-thing, or a me-thing.
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I can tell when I’m being flirted with for the most part, but I can’t tell whether it’s flirting for fun, or they’re genuinely interested.
I am 100% thick as bricks when it comes to picking up on hints directed at me.
But I have no problem seeing others flirting and one of them being oblivious to it.
That being said, now I am married I am ok with being oblivious.
Too general, aka always wrong