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Particularly - America.

I personally have found that, I live in the past to cope. Nostalgia is my drug. It sometimes doesn't help because all it does is that it makes me yearn and beg for things to be back to where things were. Because it warps my mind into opening time capsules whenever I watch an old show or listen to an episode of some niche radio show that long stopped producing new material.

However, it helps because, it at least reminds me that there are some things that I can revisit. If I couldn't revisit anything, play the games I played, read the books I read, watched the movies/shows I used to, then I'd be up shit's creek because I'd have to face the fucked up things people consider what are the 'best that's offered'.

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[–] [email protected] 19 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (9 children)

I read theory so I can better understand why the world functions in the way that it does and better predict where its heading. That's the first step in knowing how to make things better. Eventually, when I get the chance, organizing will be the way to put theory to practice and directly work towards making the world a better place.

Trying to ignore or hide from the world around me doesn't make it any less scary, only understanding it better does, and understanding is useless without action.

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 2 weeks ago

Quit running from myself. Sit in silence. Leave bits of fruit about for birds and squirrels because they make me happy.

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

You think it’s rough now? Give it about 15 minutes, he’s about to address congress…

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[–] [email protected] 24 points 2 weeks ago

Therapy.

I saw my need for therapy coming over a year ago, and wait was so long I didn't get therapy started until October.

That and I am hoping to start writing. A blog of some sort. Help me think through everything in a way that might help the two or however many readers I manage to gather.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

tonight im drinkin but normally fantasy but I can't allow myself much outside of bedtime. Like here is a nice one. Wouldn't it be great if that cigar shaped extra solar object had uploaded us all to a simulation and destroyed our more polluting constructs and the worlds biosphere were actually healing now. Would be nice.

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[–] [email protected] 51 points 2 weeks ago

Who says we're coping

[–] [email protected] 18 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

I avoid the news entirely.

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

I read the news just to entertain myself. And then I ignore the content because most news are just depressing: Armed conflict here, murder there, capital offense, you get the gist.

For several months I didn't read any news, that works too. You'll realize that most of the stuff in the tv and tabloids doesn't affect you.

And for the third point I do whatever it takes to distract, lose in or occupy myself completely. That could be a book with a nice story or some outdoor activity. Yesterday I did some kind of mini-camping. I took my bicycle and brought a camping chair, gas stove, water and cocoa powder and rode a bit into the woods. And then I had some quiet relaxing time reading a book on my phone. The hot chocolate and a thick jacket kept me from freezing. It was only 10 °C/50 °F and a bit windy.
I'll repeat that tomorrow but this time I'll switch the cocoa to tomato-soup-in-a-cup. The cocoa was too sweet for my taste.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

Try to learn more, focus on creative/constructive approaches or outlets (not necessarily artistic in nature, but may be).

Sometimes I'll read into history for something or other and find myself mildly amused and sort of relieved to see how familiar the accounts are. Of course it would be better if they weren't so familiar, but it goes to show things aren't freshly awful. It's a lot of the same old garbage we've yet to effectively deal with, same as ever, but we have been dealing with it.

In other words, I try to take steps to regain perspective to recognize there's as much, if not at times more, good to experience than bad, and even if I struggle to find much good, I can try to make my own sort of good to keep myself going.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 weeks ago

I attempt to ignore it....

Ignoring the US news is the only way I maintain my sanity. Focus on things I can change, and control. I tried staying within the US laws to affect change, to no avail. Now have to support those I can, and protect me and mine.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

I take a different approach.

I more lean into now than on a faded memory skewed by time and misremembering. Don't get me wrong, I like nostalgia too, but I'm careful to not get too wrapped up in it because those good times were also found while wading neck deep in bullshit then too. Not to mention, my world view was much more naive, less discerning, and simplistic.

This isn't the world I grew up in, but just like then, there are good times to be found now. I just have to open myself up to them in spite of myself because of my natural tendencies toward a realist/pessimist view.

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