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There’s definitely some additional nuance (like a pronouns in bio/username situation) but this should cover the broad needs of anyone who is approaching this with good faith.

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[–] [email protected] 67 points 6 days ago (1 children)

How to choose the correct pronouns

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Or call them that human over there? I do that sometimes as a joke.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (1 children)

Last time I did that I got corrected by a furry.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (1 children)

Lmao

wait a second, I don't think that's a furry…

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Avoiding pronouns altogether until clarification is obtained can certainly be a strategy too!

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (1 children)

What's your stance on snap nicknames for identification purposes?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 days ago (1 children)

i don’t know what that means

[–] [email protected] 4 points 6 days ago (1 children)

"What's up with mophead over there?"

"Have you seen big-ears lately?"

A snap nickname is any vaguely descriptive (and mildly rude) nickname given to someone.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 days ago

unrelated idk just do what makes people comfortable

[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Nope, the allt right hate they too now. Make a new apologist flow chart that are regime approved mate

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 week ago (1 children)

shoot my bad 🙇‍♀️

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 week ago (2 children)

BANG! BANG! BANG! BANG! BANG! BANG!

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 week ago (1 children)

owie! :3 owie! :3 ouch :3 oof! :3

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[–] [email protected] 24 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Use their name, if you know it.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 6 days ago

They/them it is!

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago
[–] [email protected] 23 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (4 children)

Well my language does not have a neutral pronoun so this just does not work.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 6 days ago (2 children)

Turkish has 1 gender neutral pronoun, the only pronoun in the whole language

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 days ago (1 children)

What's your language, if it's okay to ask?

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (5 children)

Why would it not be ok to ask? It's slovenian.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 6 days ago (3 children)

I think some people might consider it too personal/identifying?

Anyway, the Slovenian pronoun system sounds fascinating. Changing how you refer to people in so many different ways is pure nonsense, but it's also poetic, especially when synthesis is involved. I'll have to study it sometime.

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

Yeah, it's an English-speaking majority platform, so English chart it is. Can't remember non-English pronouns being relevant in any recent discussion. This one solves the (most) relevant problem (for most users).

That said, we have a similar problem with language limitations here and all "solutions" sound ridiculous.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 week ago (1 children)

yeah this chart is only for english unfortunately

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 week ago (8 children)

Most languages don't have gendered pronouns, actually. It's really mostly random romance languages, and nearly all of them have a neuter option.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 week ago

That nobody wants to use for me or other people >:(

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