Transfem
A community for transfeminine people and experiences.
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Some helpful links:
- The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
- Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
- Gender Spectrum // Resources for youth, parents and family, educators, mental health professionals and faith leaders.
Support Hotlines:
- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
- TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
- 988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.
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It's hard. It's something I struggled with for a long time. It felt like I had finally got to the point where I could accept and celebrate my queer identity, only to effectively lose it a couple of years later.
I'm panromantic, but heterosexual, and for a long time, I used the label straight and trasnhet, as a way of trying to push back against the whole "a guy dating a trans woman is gay" thing, but eventually, I let go of the label, because I just couldn't deal with the assumptions people made about my queerness. These days I just call myself queer.
Similarly, I felt invisible when I was out in public with my boyfriend. We both just looked like a regular couple. I'd spent most of my life telling myself that's what I wanted, only to discover it really isn't what I wanted, because it erased another part of me that was important. It felt like stepping out of one closet and in to another.
Unfortunately, I don't know what the answer is. At the moment, I'm in a poly relationship with another woman and an enby, so my queerness is right there on display, but when I was in mono relationships with men, it was hard to lose it.
That's exactly how I feel! I think it's compounded by living in a rural area. I want to fit in not only because that's my childhood dream but also for a sense of safety. I'm not sure what the answer is either. Maybe this is just a stage of transitioning or maybe it's possible to form strong bonds with allies, eventually, the way it seemed to feel easier with queer people before. I just know that I feel lonely at the moment and the queer community as a whole has seemed more distant to me.