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That's a fair point, but in the business world you're a cog. They don't care about you they care about what you add to the company. Basing anything off of business is hardly a reasonable thing to consider.
That being said, I did update my response in a separate thread, (og left for posterity) i broke it down based on if the rule was established or not and then based on independent discussion with both parties to try to determine intent. Accidents happen and the response should take that into account.
I get where you're coming from, and I can always relate to any scepticism around corporate policy. To clarify, specifically, my thoughts around the workplace, they're entirely dependent on my own experience in small to medium sized companies in Australia with strong culture and policies around this sort of thing.
I recognise that other regions would have differing levels of enforcement and while not every social situation is equitable to expectations at work, in my personal view it's pretty cut and dry- you shouldn't need a rule in a social club specifically banning uninvited sexual comments, it's just a given that you don't do that.
I would disagree.
Having that rule written out allows for people to have a no mercy policy in rule enforcement. It's easy enough for us to say "no sexual harassment is common sense" but by having it, there are absolutely no uncertain terms regarding the club's stance and how they will rule on any incident.
People are dumb, while I would prefer to fix that to date the only working solution I've found is to make it clear what expectations are instead of relying on uncommon sense.