Ask Lemmygrad

I could probably be a good parent, but I could also probably put that to the test by doing teaching or something, without the need to try to have kids first. Of course, this is assuming I found someone to have kids with in the first place. Anyway, I tend to have mixed feelings about it. It appeals to me on some level, but it would also be a huge commitment to take on and one I'm not currently well-equipped to handle materially. When I'm on dating apps, I tend to put like "open to kids" cause I don't feel closed off to it like some do who don't want children, period. But I could not say I'm actively pursuing the idea either. It also just feels a bit weird to think about as a decision I make at any point, since I'm not the one who would be bearing the child. I know it matters though insofar as I'm looking for someone who wants the same thing. But since I'm not sure what I want and some of it for me depends on things like financial stability, that makes it harder. If I lived in a socialist state where financial stability came relatively easily, as did community support systems, I'd probably be much more into the idea. But in the US? Sometimes I wonder how much can hold together before weeks become decades. So it's hard to even think about a lifetime commitment like that.