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Thanks ❤️ I just don't want to cope without close relationships, I guess, so I really want to know why I keep making people spiral.
Sometimes I think it's not me, it's them... But it's become so many of them.
I doubt that you are making people spiral. From what I've experienced and observed in my own life, I think people who are dealing with shit tend to attract other people who are dealing with similar shit. And sometimes, depending on how said people are dealing with their shit, everyone's shit can start colliding and turn into a shit storm. It's not one person's fault, and all any individual can do is work on their own shit and go from there.
That's reassuring, thanks. I feel insane sometimes from the effect I have on people when I think I've said something normal. My therapist didn't ask for any examples and just convinced me I'm rude af because I'm autistic and was homeschooled, but cutting out the "rude" behaviors never helped. In fact, people started melting down when they learned I'd done that.
"You stopped doing that thing I had a meltdown over? Why are you still hung up on what a dick I was?" When they'd never told me they were a dick or that they were wrong. I thought if I apologized for something, I'm supposed to stop doing it.
I just feel like I'm not appropriate to be around people sometimes because I do the right thing and everyone still has some kind of nervous breakdown.
That seems odd to me that your therapist never asked for examples. If you ever feel like it, I'm sure people here would be happy to give you input if you're wondering how people might generally react to something in particular.
I've found this to be the case over the years. If I'm in active alcoholism, that's who I find, usw. "Broken" people seek out "broken" people, because what the normies are doing makes no sense at all.
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