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Long story short, I've known that I was trans long before I had even heard the word. There were signs as early as 4 years old and I knew by the time I was 8. I'm in my late 30's now and I had come to a kind of peace about not transitioning. It's something that I want but because of life, family, and a lot of fear I decided not to.

Recently a very close friend who I've know for decades came out to me as a trans woman.

I want to tell her about myself but I'm worried about planting seeds of doubt about her transition because I've known I was trans for so long and yet haven't started transitioning myself. I'm afraid that if I try and explain why that she might internalize my reasons. If that makes sense. I've never told anyone my truth and I'd so love to have someone to talk to about it. Especially since my friends transition is causing me to second guess myself.

I would appreciate some thoughts on whether I should tell my friend.

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[โ€“] [email protected] 0 points 2 days ago (8 children)

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Pretty much ya. I had never really thought that my dysphoria could be hurting me. It's just always been something I carry around, and I've treated it like any other unfulfillable desire. It definitely made me more anti-social, and instead of seeking out a girl friend i was happy to fantasize about being a girl. I'm not completely disgusted by my own body like I've read others are, which probably helped with coping too.

I sobered up a couple years ago and have started to face the reality thst I'm getting older. With that has come a realization that my dysphoria has probably significantly hampered my life.

[โ€“] [email protected] 0 points 2 days ago (3 children)

I carried the same weight until I came out at 32, and let me tell you, it's heavier than you'll ever realize until you put it down and start unpacking it. But the change in my life in just over a year has been literally unbelievable.

[โ€“] [email protected] 0 points 2 days ago (2 children)

My heart goes out to you internet stranger. If you're willing to share more, I'd love to hear how your life had changed for the better.

[โ€“] [email protected] 0 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

It's hard to quantify in some ways, but the biggest thing is I can stand to be me now. I'm in therapy to help deal with all the emotions that come with finally not repressing everything, and boy is that hard to deal with sometimes, but I actively want to deal with it.

So as cheesy as it is, transitioning has actually given me hope for the future.

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