Transfem
A community for transfeminine people and experiences.
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Some helpful links:
- The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
- Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
- Gender Spectrum // Resources for youth, parents and family, educators, mental health professionals and faith leaders.
Support Hotlines:
- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
- TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
- 988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.
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I detransitioned for almost a year because of my own self-doubt and confusion. When it really came down to it, separated from everything else, I absolutely hated everything about being a man. I hated my body, I hated the way I felt, I hated the way people talked to me. It felt like living a fake life meant for someone else. Like abandoning everything I actually cared about because something else was easier.
That was 8 years ago and I don't doubt myself much anymore. But when I do I try to break it down. Everyone in my life knows me as a woman. That fact never bothers me. I'm very affirmed in the feminization of my body and feel confident when I embrace it. I don't like being called a man, or having he/him pronouns used on me. I dream of being a mother. I see myself aging as a woman.
None of those things really has to do with "being trans". It all has to do with me, with how I feel, with what I like and what I want and what I want to be. Those things inform what I should do to have a happy life. Being a woman has allowed me to be happy. So I do those things and embraced my own identity as a woman. It's not a matter of empirical standards or some form of self evaluation. It's a product of doing what you truly want to, of letting yourself be the you who is happy.