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The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
Gender Spectrum // Resources for youth, parents and family, educators, mental health professionals and faith leaders.

Support Hotlines:

The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.

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How to talk to trans people (lemmy.blahaj.zone)

submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Pro tip: like you would anybody else! LOL

People get so awkward and trip all over themselves just because I have a name and pronouns. I don't put any pressure on them; if they get it right, I'm delighted (90% of the time this only involves... reading). If not, I keep my disappointment tucked away inside.

But people will get all mixed up or overthink it on their own. Their reaction makes me feel like I'm guilty of something when they get so flustered. They really don't need to apologize if making an honest mistake. I'm not going to fly off the rails over it. I struggle with remembering names, myself.

Idk does anyone else experience this? Had a medical appointment today, and she was like "Miss... Mr... Miss X." Or she had been using the right name all morning, but got confused at one point rapidly alternating between my legal and chosen names.

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[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago

If I'm not sure, I either just use their first name, ask for pronouns, or use gender neutral pronouns. It's not difficult.

I had an interaction today at work where I discussed a technical issue of a user of unclear pronouns and my coworker said "I think she(?) needs to...." and the question mark struck me as being very unkind. Never do that. Just use "they" or first names in those situations.