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I just lost my job and its been months of endless searching. I feel like the interviews go well but I still don't have anything. I am giving up all my hobbies and pretty much everything me from killing myself and I still cannot find anything. I am close to losing my apartment and everyday is a nightmare. I am starting to self harm I cannot afford to get help I can't even eat full meals anymore and I do not know what to do.

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[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I think this is horrible advice.

Giving up is a healthy coping mechanism, especially when you consider the dire alternatives. People like OP are throwing themselves into the brick wall of job applications, over and over, and they are bloodied. They need respite. Giving up is not permanent, throwing yourself into a brick wall until you kill yourself is.

I graduated with a good Computer Science degree 3 years ago and I am still unemployed. Multiple people in my graduating class have killed themselves, and I would have as well if I had kept throwing myself into that brick wall.

I'm 3 years and 3000 applications in (not counting the AI-generated ones), and I have 0 job offers. Do your back of the napkin math and tell me how many more thousand applications, how many more years, until I can get a job?

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

That's my fault for not reading the community name. I don't have any guarantees, only probabilities based on what you think your chances may be, and only one step at a time, i.e. Application to an interview, interview to a job etc., but there are so many factors in the real world that ultimately it's still a guess. I know it feels like an endless uphill battle. I know it's demoralizing and depressing as fuck. I'll try to edit my answer, see if I can be more helpful.