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This is such a delicate subject. How do you talk about a societal broad issue without hurting individuals? With posts like these, there will always be people who feel aren't the real subject of it that feel the weight of it, and it's not a healthy way to approach things like this. There is a societal level problem with men's treatment of women, but men likely to see this post likely aren't part of that problem and want to improve things, and posts like this only kind of serve to to put people down. However, it's not like this post shouldn't have been posted, it's a serious topic that should be taken seriously and not ignored.
it's like, really simple, like incredibly simple. You talk about the philosophy behind it, you talk about the social implications of these things, you talk about the moral and ethical concerns behind these things.
If you do all of those you will be able to very accurately and precisely reconstruct the specific problem as well as how to find the solution, all while stepping on zero toes.
I don't see it as a put-down.
I don't see how "You were ruined by your upbringing and don't deserve love" isn't a put down.
that's not what was said. everyone needs and deserves love, but nobody is entitled to a partner. those who have had harmful socialization need to go to therapy to make sure they don't end up hurting others. really, everyone should go to therapy. it's good for you.
The person is talking about the dating pool they are exposed to. I don't see this as a personal comment about any individual person. I certainly wouldn't take it as a personal attack, and I don't think anyone else should either.