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This question made me come to a weird realization that I dont appreciate when people do or say nice things to me. I tried to think of something and I know that she has done plenty of nice things and said nice things but nothing stands out.
Then I thought about how I'd react if she did something nice for me and I realized I get annoyed and dislike it. I can handle small gifts but I don't like people doing things for me or helping me and I ignore compliments because I already feel comfortable with myself so I don't feel like I dont need them.
Im not even sure how to appreciate a gesture beyond just saying thankyou as a formality and trying to figure out how to pay them back.