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How do you get over a crush? (lemmy.world)

submitted 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Say hypothetically I've already shot my shot and was shot down, how would I go about getting over this (without rebounding to other people or whatever)?

Edit: Thanks everyone, for all the comments, support, and advice! Majority rules a tie between time and distractions lol. Seriously though thanks y'all

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 3 months ago

Accept that not everyone will like you back, in fact, most won't. Mourne the loss, be sad, cry, then get up and carry on, because there will be another.

I also prefer to stay friends if I can, because if I loved them for some reason, them not feeling anything for me doesn't change that, so I want them in my life.

Some of this was only possible due to the fact that I have had my heart broken too many times to count, so it's also a thing of practicing radical acceptance.