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I don't get it.
So you tried everything, and nothing worked. So what is next?
I feel like the validation of pessimistic feelings is a slippery slope because one may inadvertently validate the defeatist thoughts behind those emotions.
I try to ask "What do you think you should do, then?" and more often than not, it's some sort of ambiguous capitulation. Like there's a desire to just dwell in the hole they are trapped in, and it can be difficult to have patience.
Because it's regarding common "mainstream" solutions such as, for example, "have you tried exercising?", "have you tried going outside?", "have you tried keeping a todo-list?", etc. And not like, "have you tried this therapy session that I'm offering you for free?", or "have you tried this medication which I'm giving you access to yet?"
Because chances are, there are things that are yet to be done, but those are not things that the average person who is about to suggest something might be able to do
Once upon a time, I was battling severe depression and I had a similar attitude.
I would get angry when people would suggest water and exercise, because it felt like they weren't acknowledging the severity of my problem. I also found exercising very daunting and I had gone into exercising with the wrong attitude (goal oriented vs. enjoyment).
Turns out, I really did need to drink way more water and exercise.
It's genuinely good that that worked for you, it won't work for everyone and even for the people it would help, sometimes there's a block that requires another fix to get past so it can work. Your experience is entirely valid, but using that experience to invalidate the experiences of others is not cool.