To start for anyone that may be concerned by the title, I've always considered myself an ally and I've supported both family and friends when they came out to me. I've always known that it takes a lot of trust for someone to come out like that, and I want to be the friend that they feel safe to talk with about that stuff.
I'm autistic, and I've recently started my journey of understanding that, my gender, and my sexuality. I've suspected since college that I was ace, and finally understood that about myself in the last few months. I made the first public message ever referring to myself as queer in a casual setting as a passing comment today which honestly felt a little strange, but already feels natural.
What I need help with understanding, is why should I actively tell my friends and family about it? The way I see it, I've always been this way and nothing will change in me between now and 10 seconds after I say something. I don't think of it as hiding anything either, I think of it as me being me. Why do others feel the need to share with people close to them?
That’s invasive and insensitive of them. Ick. Have you ever told them that their behavior makes you uncomfortable, and why? If they’re naive but otherwise decent people, maybe they just need the problem explained to them, and they’ll knock it off once they understand.
Most of them are of that mind set that you don't need to do anything in life after you graduate highschool and pop a couple of kids out. Then there's a select few who are highly intelligent in ways but have different values and traditions. I used to think people could connect off intelligence and "over-standing" but ever since 2020 it just feels like an active psychological civil war. It's like raw human power is being wasted on ignoring the nature of natural humanity.
I’m sorry to hear you’re in such a lousy situation. It seems like you’re handling things the best way you can, under the circumstances.
Thanks. I'm trying. I can't help but feel learning and growth from it. I just hope the situation goes away soon.