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[–] [email protected] 55 points 6 months ago (1 children)

I can't imagine something more awkward than having to explicitly deny someone based on looks after having a good conversation.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 6 months ago (2 children)

What, never been catfished before? Had plenty of women do this to me on apps. All their pictures show one person, then they show up as a person and a half. After the date I just tell them "thanks but no thanks, you catfished me."

[–] [email protected] -2 points 6 months ago (1 children)

No I've never been catfished before. My "type" is queer/weird though, I would never blindly swipe right on the stereotypically attractive straight woman.

How has this happened multiple times?? Are you actually being catfished or are you just talking about people who look fatter than you'd like in person?

[–] [email protected] 4 points 6 months ago (1 children)

I don't know what you're trying to imply, that I "blindly" swipe on stereotypically attractive straight women (how would one blindly do that, I wonder), or that I am judgemental? It has happened to me 3 different times. Women using pictures of them before serious weight gain. all 3 cases it was over 100lbs difference between pictures and reality.

Also my type is queer/weird, as I am queer and weird.

[–] [email protected] -2 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (2 children)

WOW I did not expect this kind of response lol, I'm just saying that if I see a stereotypically attractive woman, I would read her profile to see if she's my type because just by appearance she likely wouldn't be.

So it is about weight gain and not actually straight up catfishing. I feel like there is a difference. I feel like if that happened to me I wouldn't just leave right away, I've made many friendships from dates. If you're so concerned about weight gain that you'd walk away you should consider straight up asking if the photos are recent.

But just based on this response it seems like you're kind of an aggro/rude person in general lol.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 months ago (1 children)
  1. I read the whole profile, not sure why you assume I don't. Probably the same reason you assumed I just "blindly go for stereotypically attractive women".
  2. I have formed friendships from dates as well.
  3. I never said I left a date right away if the woman was catfishing, I always am cordial, finish the date, and then when they ask for another, I say no, and tell them it's because they catfished me.

From everything you've assumed about me, to trying to differentiate how you would act, just screams pick me.

[–] [email protected] -1 points 6 months ago (1 children)

You're on the defensive for no reason but ok

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 months ago (1 children)

because of your baseless accusations lmao sound like someone straight out of female dating strategy

[–] [email protected] -1 points 6 months ago (1 children)

You keep saying I'm making accusations, you need therapy.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago (2 children)
[–] [email protected] -1 points 6 months ago (1 children)

The fact that you have taken everything as an accusation, and then start to call me fat(?) when you feel attacked .... I feel like this is why you have dating troubles I would seriously consider therapy

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 months ago (1 children)

wow now you;re suddenly on the defensive? why I wonder? you need therapy.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

What am I defending myself about here? Are you just parroting what I'm saying because you think I'm insulting you?

[–] [email protected] -2 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 children)

? are you saying I'm fat because, um, I'm like chronically underweight and have been my whole life. not much I can or want to do about it, I have a fast metabolism and spend a lot of calories in my active daily life

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 months ago (1 children)

I usually eat holistically, with nutrition coming from whole grain meals, I guess you just blindly go for carb-centric meals 🙄 I also always tip at restaurants, not sure why others wouldn't...

[–] [email protected] 0 points 6 months ago

I do eat bowls full of pasta

[–] [email protected] 4 points 6 months ago
[–] [email protected] 9 points 6 months ago

I think the standard procedure is to finish the date, and then never text them back