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can you help me formulate an answer to a colleague who is not my boss but feels entitled to tell me how I have to work? (linux.community)

submitted 7 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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cross-posted from: https://linux.community/post/803244

the colleague in question feels that only her way of doing things is the right one and expects me to adapt to her way of thinking and her logic. This is tiring and burdensome because I have to force me to stop doing things automatically and efficiently, but think how she wants it done and do it her way. I work worse when this happens.

There are several ways to reach the same goal and I always adapt according to the situation at hand. I do what feels logic at the time and work my way.

I already told the charge nurse charge about it but I don't know if she had a conversation with this coworker and what was said.

The message has to be neutral and polite. What do you think of this?

I feel you believe you are my boss. You are not. Stop telling me how to work. It's tiring. You have your way of doing things, I've got mine, both equally good. Should you have a problem with this, contact the charge or manager. I'm gonna go work now.

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (1 children)

Top of my head something like "I appreciate your input however I prefer to handle things in my own way. Both our methods are efficient and can coexist. If you do have concerns, please direct it at our supervisor. Thank you for understanding." But I would wait for more answers first just to get more feedback

Edit: in case things do escalate for whatever reason do yourself a favor and keep copies of your communications with her. Just document everything

[–] [email protected] 3 points 7 months ago

I replied more fully in the other thread but it's never a bad idea to go through your manager from the beginning. Talk it over with them and get their approval on your specific response - it'll fully cover your ass and likely result in the best outcome.