this post was submitted on 12 Apr 2024
752 points (100.0% liked)
196
16509 readers
2254 users here now
Be sure to follow the rule before you head out.
Rule: You must post before you leave.
founded 1 year ago
MODERATORS
you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
view the rest of the comments
I'm of the opinion that as long as you aren't hurting yourself or others without consent, do what you want to. The consent thing is important because people will play contact or combat sports, do BDSM stuff, etc. - so long as it's informed go nuts. It's also important because some people can't give informed consent, e.g. kids can't agree to underage sex because they don't know about the harms and are more vulnerable to manipulation.
A couple of years ago I watched a doctor review a video of someone who likes having sex with balloons. The doctor said he would only diagnose that behavior as a problem or illness if it was hurting him or others around him. His argument was if there's no harm and it makes that person happier then what really is the problem? I was initially taken aback because it's weird right? But after some thought it really made sense to me - just because I don't relate doesn't make something bad. I don't have to want to do it myself - there's room in life for multiple (non-harmful) preferences.
Yeah, that pretty much sums up how it should be, and it would be great if more people understood that point. That you don't have to like or enjoy what someone else does, yet you can still have acceptance for them enjoying what safely makes them happier, rather than rejecting things for being different than what's perceived as "normal".