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Is this thought about school too radical? (lemmy.world)

submitted 7 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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So when I went through school you'd have two types of struggling kids:

Kid A would struggle to pass tests, but work hard and get every assignment done so they can keep their average in check. Teachers like this kid. Not that there's anything wrong with this kid, but teachers project virtue on them sometimes just to shame kid B when kid B asks for consideration.

Kid B is who I assume many people here were and who I was. Kid B struggled to get from start to finish of all of the assignments that kept popping up and per haps couldn't do the same task for very long. Kid B, however, could get high grades on most tests. If Kid B asks for some consideration to pass the class as they've gotten the information but weren't able to finish all of the assignments and are told no, because Kid A exists and "I can stand someone who struggles with the tests but does the work, but I'll never tolerate someone who is lazy".

I have cptsd from years spent as kid B, but I'm pretty sure that's a generic thing that happened to others as well. I had that quote shoved down my throat by a double digit number of adults. And the too-radical thought is this: I believe the teaching approach that holds kid A as a paragon of virtue and kid B as a lazy snot is quite discriminatory and maybe those are just two differently struggling kids. And maybe some consideration should be given to both. And maybe PTSD causing trauma should be withheld from both groups

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 7 months ago

I am a 100% work from home worker and have gotten more work done that way than ever before. Of course, all in person management leads to me shutting down and eventually losing my ability to do anything once I'm done with my reserve of will to push through the burnout.

I will admit there was a learning curve. I had to learn how to arrange my tasks so that it works for me. I don't "sit down" for a 9-5 work day any more than I have a dedicated session to do any personal task. I wake up and I'm kind of on a cooldown management system. From the moment I get out of bed, and I don't get out of bed until I'm rested and have a plan, I just pick what the best priority task would be to do, cool down from the picking, do any amount of work on that task that moves the needle, only ever pushing into potential burnout territory if I've fallen short of moving the needle at all. If it's a rough day I'll go back into cooldown after any needle movement at all. If it's a great day I'll get it and the next thing done. I cool down and task pick all day until I'm pretty much out of gas for the day.

Sometimes I'm netting a loss of ground on tasks but never go into free fall. Over the broader course of my life id say I'm netting a gain, but time will tell, and this lifestyle is really only possible as a remote working software developer. The only real exception to that is setting alarms for meetings, which are my only "schedule" requirement, and my alarm happens just in time to grab my laptop and get on.