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[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago

i just find it hilarious! i didn't mean that to contradict or try to correct you lol, i apologIze if my tone was off

it IS effectively the same poster, which makes it more amusing to me that the differences are there

like if you look at the shape of the pants for example. it is definitely the same base image underneath the details

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago (2 children)

okay but wait, they're not even exact

but at the same time they are clearly related, it looks like most of the same shapes are there, but yours has a hair flip and a collared over shirt

i am curious why there are variations on the same image

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 months ago

Comedy can be and is used to make real criticisms of the world and various institutions. "It's just a joke" is one of the most common lies.

People can laugh at the joke, or disagree with the criticism it communicates, or both, or neither.

But having and exercising critical thinking skills when engaging with memes in a meme community full of scholars and academics is exactly what I would expect.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 4 months ago

x = 5/9 is not 9/9. 5/9 = .55555...

You're proving that 0.555... equals 5/9 (which it does), not that it equals 1 (which it doesn't).

It's absolutely not the same result as x = 0.999... as you claim.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 5 months ago

i haven't read any comments yet, so forgive me if i repeat something.

i think your friend is very, very bad at explaining the reasoning, and from what i hear, most neurotypicals are! a lot of times, the "rules" do make sense, but then they spout bullshit like this that makes it baffling.

the reason "k." is a somewhat offensive response is because, on average, people who are upset or displeased speak and communicate tersely. a lot of people, myself included, turn "okay" into "k" when annoyed. sometimes it's intentional rudeness. based on how brains associate related information, even if someone doesn't think you're upset with them, there's still likely to be a knee-jerk response that "k." is an unpleasant and unwanted response, because any other time it usually is.

a lot of this stuff is based on connotation and usage, which can obviously be difficult for autists to learn or intuit. ask someone who only knows through personal intuition and they'll likely speculate or make stuff up. i guess I'm technically speculating too, but i have a level of personal insight and social mindfulness that most don't, and "it's lazy grammar" is just a wholly useless and meaningless explanation.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 5 months ago

thank you for the delight ❤️

[–] [email protected] 0 points 6 months ago

(silent appreciation for this comment)

[–] [email protected] 0 points 6 months ago (1 children)

I agree and love that strategy! I just brought it up in another comment before I read this one.

This is the way I'd prefer to use the word "sorry" but I have adapted to using it more liberally for masking and it often takes significant effort to come up with alternatives. Hence this post, really.

I was using apologies as an example and was unclear about the actual point, I think. I doubted my own autism because I know and understand that "sorry" doesn't always mean sorry and when and why.

And yet I was struggling with the idea of using it that way because it conflicts with my brain and values, and spending a disproportionate amount of time trying to figure out how to write the greeting.

Like spending 30+ minutes deliberating over the absolute least important part of an email due to social anxiety over language use... No, I couldn't possibly be autistic (/sarcasm).

[–] [email protected] 0 points 6 months ago (1 children)

I completely agree. This is why I was agonizing over the email! The whole "It seems polite to say it" vs. "I must avoid needless apologies."

For the times I feel tempted to over-apologize out of insecurity or shame, my favorite apology replacement strategy is saying thanks instead.

"Thanks for waiting" instead of "Sorry that took so long."

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submitted 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
 

Tell me if any of you relate to my ramble:

I thought I was good at socializing. I can be quiet charming, actually. And I actually really love the linguistics of social interaction, both verbal and nonverbal, even though it trips me up a lot.

I'm stuck on the concept of using an apology as an opening. Like, "I'm sorry I haven't been able to reply sooner" in an email. To me it's not actually an apology, no one's done anything wrong, and the other person isn't even inconvenienced in this case. It's just a polite greeting, a buffer before the actual content. But it's awkward when they reassure me I don't need to apologize, which I already know. Even though I'm aware that's just a "correct" way to reply to an apology in as casual a manner as I gave it. It's just like a mutual acknowledgement that unexpected time has passed.

So I think, look how much I know about weird unspoken social rules! I can't actually be autistic, right?!

As if laying in bed deliberating the off-label use of apologies in conversational transition and filler, while mentally rehearsing an email I hope to write tomorrow and puzzling over the least important but most concerning part (the greeting) isn't autistic as hell.

No, no, the frequent sensory overload and nonverbal shutdowns have no weight here.

Anyway, thanks for reading and happy stimming!

Edit: I'm okay on the wording/apologizing thing and don't need advice (though I appreciate the effort all the same)! I wrote this post oddly but the point was imposter syndrome about autism and the apology thing was just an example.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

"now people don't know if your ok when you say your ok."

Well that's basically the truth right there. I would love if people were considerate of my slow processing and tendency to misspeak, and learned that what I say on the spot might not hold, and maybe they should check in with me later. I didn't lie— but I didn't have all the information settled in my head yet.

I do try to communicate my slow processing when possible, to give context to that. If people avoid me because existing with the brain I have makes me "a problem," good fucking riddance. I don't need more of those people in my life.

Like, give me some time to think about it??? Why can't that be common courtesy???

[–] [email protected] 6 points 7 months ago (1 children)

but in minecraft it's enjoyable!

not trying to be cheeky—i wrote up a long part about modding capacity and level of sandbox freedom etc., but i am sure you're already very aware of that lol

so taking it as just vanilla: at the end of the day mining in minecraft feels relaxing and satisfying to me while in NMS it feels like a chore. i absolutely hate mining out ore deposits with a mining laser.

(breaking plants and minerals is kinda fun though)

like minecraft really nailed game feel

obviously this all depends on personal preference anyway, but if players have to do the same thing over and over again, then it needs to be very enjoyable in and off itself to do so.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 7 months ago (1 children)

just a funny one:

following instructions, apparently?

as a youth, we had a guest lecture at school (computing) and were given a software tutorial to follow. i completed it and the instructors were impressed, to my absolute confusion.

"i just... followed the instructions?"

"you'd be surprised how many can't do that!"

in hindsight, i do wonder if it's a slight autism "perk" just because i think literally and follow instructions accurately so long as they aren't vague. i wonder if some people will struggle with specific instructions but excel at parsing vague things.

it's just so funny to me to get complimented on that specifically. but also the student teaching assistant was definitely flirting, which baby autistic me DID pick up on but considered mostly irrelevant to the strange praise??? xD

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