axolittl

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[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Being principled is not inferior, we're being being pathologized for it because it is a threat to the corrupt powers. The existing power structures see this pattern as dangerous to them, because principled people are more likely to see through their bullshit and try to remake society in a way that is beneficial to all- which means removing evil from power. So, the powerful are using their influence in the media and medical establishment to consider principled behavior to be an undesirable symptom. So, we have to keep being principled. Keep caring. Keep resisting. Keep trying to create a better way. Keep trying to create networks, projects, and relationships based on real values, rather than harming each other, which only makes the established powers more powerful.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago (2 children)

If someone feels the same about children and animals, and then decides to not become a parent as a result, that is a responsible choice. Not all parents like their children. Some parents develop a special bond but not all. Better for a person to have a few pets than create a human being they may end up losing interest in after a few months.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago (4 children)

OP is saying that in their experience, holding a baby gives them the same hit of oxytocin as holding a cat or dog. OP has experienced holding both babies and cats and dogs. OP is talking about experiences that they have had. Your uncles was talking about taking a shit, an experience that he had, and giving birth, an experience that he has not had. That is the difference. OP is allowed to talk about their experiences. They're not talking about other people's experiences with children or claiming that their individual experiences are universal.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago (6 children)

The original poster was talking about their own experience, not anyone else's.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (3 children)
[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

"Don't be a quitter" is like saying "Fuck your boundaries. Stay in toxic situations no matter how bad they get."

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Ah yes, the good ol' "Just get over it" technique that is supposed to work for any mental health condition.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

14 years is a long time. Hope you're having a better time now.

 

I'll go first: "You have to have children when you're young," told to me when I was in my late 20s, with no desire to ever have kids, and no means to support them, by someone divorced multiple times with at least one adult child who does not speak to them.

Also: Responding to "How do I deal with this problem?" questions with "Oh, don't worry about it, it's enough that you're even thinking about it!"