Hey folks,
I've been semi out at work for a while now, with our communication systems showing she/they and dressing femme in the workplace.
I've settled on wanting to be called by a different name, and talking with my team lead and HR contact am planning a switch over on Monday.
I don't expect any hostility from the team I'm in, and the company has been very supportive to date.
That doesn't stop me being a little nervous with the visibility of Slack etc changing over to a distinctly female name.
Was wondering if the experiences of other transfemmes coming out in such a clear way in their workplaces.
My girlfriend pretty much shoved me into the fitting rooms the first time I went to buy a skirt... I was so very nervous showing the gal on the door the one item to try on.
Fast forward a bit and I had a lovely experience at the Levi store ... was looking for a new pair of jeans for a holiday. As I was looking at the various cuts I was unsure wear to pick up, as I wanted something more form fitting. My partner said that the female cut has very little crotch area though, so potentially an issue there... so was looking in the men's section.
Assistant in the store came over and offered help. I somewhat shyly mentioned that I was looking for someone a little tighter on the skin, and mentioned "I have a masc pair already" ... their eyes pretty much lit up "Well you won't find what you want on this side of the store" and pretty much dragged me over to the women's section, and started pulling bits off the shelf and holding them up to me.
"Well this is pretty much the equivalent of a mens 34 waist, what do you wear normally?"
"Well my femme size in my clothing is usually a 16..."
Again a slight grin... before rushing me over to the cubicles to try on the items they picked out...
A very good eye they had... picked out a pair so comfy and I felt really good in. Was also just such an affirming experience.