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One random night, I lay on my bed in my silent bedroom, and I felt that the silence is uncomfortable. Why, I asked myself, that the silence felt sharp, like I prefer the noise of my annoyingly loud dehumidifier, or the muffled sound of traffic in my old apartment?

I realized that the silence was ringing, in a high pitched noise that we all associate with being hit near the ears. My inner voice told myself: "man, you have tinnitus."

Thinking back, that wasn't the first time I thought that I have tinnitus, but I was probably in denial for years, or it just got louder. The sad part is that I'm only 26, and somehow, I feared getting tinnitus ever since my childhood.

Even worse, I just ordered a pair of headphones with ANC, and when I don't play anything through it, the ringing gets very clear.

Was depressed for a few days, thinking that it's not fair that I got it even though I don't expose myself to loud noises often, I listen to music at a couple levels lower than my preference, and I don't turn up my music to drown out noises.

But nothing in life is fair, and to compared to the suffering of others, this is only a mild discomfort. So I'll try to keep positive about it, and be grateful that I still enjoy a comparatively luxurious life.

I'll visit a doctor soon though!

Any of you have a similar experience? I'll be happy to read your stories!

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[–] aeki@slrpnk.net 17 points 3 months ago (1 children)

My tinnitus sounds like the insects I could hear at night when I was younger in the tropics.

I don't live there anymore and the tinnitus feels comforting because of it. It doesn't distress me at all.

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[–] DarkThoughts@fedia.io 2 points 3 months ago (2 children)

This was 10 or so years ago but I had it for about 3 weeks in my left ear IIRC. When it started I thought it is just some temporary ear ringing and would go away after a few seconds. It didn't. During the day it wasn't so bad, when you have some other noise coming through the headphones it is distracting enough that you kinda forget about it, but when it is time for bed it turns to absolute hell. I already have various sleep issues and having a constant loud tone blasting inside of your ear is absolutely maddening when you try to fall asleep. At some point I was just sobbing until I would fall asleep from exhaustion. Luckily I think after a week or so it started to slowly and gradually fade out. I did not notice it until a few days later when the change became more obvious though. By week 3 I did not hear it anymore. Not sure what the cause was, but I'd be very glad if it never happens again. If it was permanent I'd honestly just kill myself.

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[–] DarkSirrush@lemmy.ca 30 points 3 months ago (9 children)

I have had tinnitus all my life, and honestly did not know the ringing wasnt a normal thing until I watched an episode of Archer. Becoming truly aware of it was a terrible day for me.

Generally, it isn't something that is treatable, but in my opinion it is better to have it at an earlier age, when your brain is more adaptable, as it makes it easier to adapt to the constant ringing, and learn ways to tune it out.

If you need to, get some sort of white noise/nature sound generator and keep it playing during the quiet times, and focus on those noises. I find that tinnitus is worst when you are focusing on it, and the more you think about it, the more you notice it.

One thing I have found to NEVER work is mentally playing with the volume/pitch - those sliders only go up, and stay up until I have focused on something else for awhile.

[–] SidewaysHighways@lemmy.world 14 points 3 months ago (3 children)

White noise for the goddamn win.

Brown noise to be exact.

A search for a 15 minute brown noise MP3 track years ago saved me

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[–] bisserkr@lemmy.world 4 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

If there's no physical damage (i.e. Loud music), and there's no nerve inflammation ( Ive been fighting this since I got covid a few years ago) or some sort of infection.. just go get your ears cleaned and you'll most likely be fine.

[–] queermunist@lemmy.ml 2 points 3 months ago (3 children)

Nope. Had it as long as I can remember. Some people are just born with it.

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[–] jet@hackertalks.com 6 points 3 months ago (5 children)

Yes. Fighting it all my life. I first noticed when I went to the desert and it was so silent all I could hear was this high pitched squeal like a old CRT tv.

I've been to doctors, sometimes they'll give you basically ear viagra, to increase blood flow. That can help.

Changing my diet significantly helped, improving blood flow to all of my extremities including my ears significantly reduced my tinnitus symptoms. If you have high blood pressure, or any other metabolic syndrome factors, improving that may also improve your tinnitus

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[–] silmarine@discuss.tchncs.de 6 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Few times I've had this and the doctor just cleaned my ear and it was gone. In ear headphones can cause that by pushing earwax back. I stopped using in ear headphones and haven't had that happen in years. Just giving you a reason to stay positive, tinnitus can cause by some easily fixed things.

[–] pepperonisalami@sh.itjust.works 2 points 3 months ago

Not gonna hold my breath, but I'll definitely visit a doctor, hopefully it's not permanent.

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