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In over 30 years of practice, Dr. Errol Billinkoff rarely saw a man without kids come into his Winnipeg clinic to get a vasectomy. But since the pandemic began, he says it's become an almost daily occurrence.

And he's not alone.

"At first, I thought I was the only one who was noticing this," Billinkoff, who brought a no-scalpel vasectomy procedure to Winnipeg in the early 1990s, told CBC News in a November interview.

"But I am part of an international chat group where doctors who do vasectomies participate and the topic came up, and it's like everybody notices it."

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[–] [email protected] 75 points 6 days ago

I've decided I don't want to have kids at all.

My wife is taking it better than my son and daughter are.

[–] [email protected] 25 points 6 days ago (17 children)

Can anyone here who's gotten one comment on the vasectomy process? I've been pretty nervous seeing a lot of the comments about it. I don't even do well with a normal blood draw. I feel like I'd need general anesthesia for this.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

I've never had kids. Got it done down in TX. Told the doc I've never wanted them and didn't want to pay for anymore abortions.

I did it fully conscious with local anesthesia because I had no one to pick me up and look after me if I took the knockout gas. There were a couple tiny pricks of pain next to the base of my penis, then numbness. An unpleasant tugging sensation in each testicle when he positioned my vas deferens to cut, cauterize, and clamp the ends. That was the worst part, but like I say, it didn't hurt. Aside from that, I nervously wisecracked with the nurses, who politely laughed and joked back. Then I put my pants back on, paid the bill (ouch!), drove myself home, and spent the weekend getting high and playing video games with frozen gel packs under my balls. All that felt like was the dull tenderness you get a little while after a blow to the junk. Totally manageable. I took some Advil or something.

Against advice, I returned to my strenuous job 3 or 4 days afterwards, and jerked off repeatedly much sooner than suggested. I've experienced zero complications, but ymmv. Taking my wisdom teeth out was much worse. Getting a tattoo is far more painful. It was a bit worse than getting my ears pierced, but healed faster.

8/10 Would totally repeat the experience just for the days off with zero responsibilities. My only regret is I didn't do it at 18.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 days ago

I had a bad time with mine. They wouldn't give me anything beyond some local anesthetic. I could definitely feel tugging sensations as they did it, and I passed out and almost fell of the table afterwords. (Luckily my wife caught me as the nurse and Dr had already left the room)

Not bad painwise, but mine experience was not a walk in the park like I see other people have.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 6 days ago

They use a small hole punch device after a spray anesthetic on the area to make a pinhole size hole. They pull the vas through and cut it before sheathing the vas so sperm can't get through then do the same with the second vas.

I had a small amount of pain with the second one but they applied more spray. It is kinda my own fault for not telling them ahead of time that I process all anesthetic drugs fast. I don't know why but I always require refreezing at the dentist for regular procedures.

https://www.pollockclinics.com/no-scalpel-vasectomy/our-approach/

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

Fairly fast, fairly simple. I arranged a friend to drive me and I was content the inconvenience fell under what I would ask of a friend. Got a local anaesthetic, the doctor and nurse talked about mundanities the entire time, which was comforting in a way. But I could see "why aren't you focused right now" being a valid question.

Recovery was pretty speedy, but I knew I was going to be on strong pain killers due to a surgery and timed my procedure for that.

Lasting effects, other than sterility and slight scaring, is that pulling my balls hurts much more than it used to. The 'suck on the balls' move in the vids would have me doubled over, they do not want to be tugged any amount, for any reason. For a time I got a periodic sharp pain in my sack that has long since gone.

All in all I'm happy I did it, would do it again. Would probably endure more for the benefits.

As to the article I count in this number. Knew I didn't want kids before my 18th and starting nagging the gp to establish a pattern. I had life changing injury at 26 due to a dangerous hobby, asked again and was referred then accepted. I don't want kids because I'm lazy, and I will orphan them young.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Was really nbd. Gave me a local. Felt no pain at the time. Spent the next day in bed with ice on it. A little soreness, cleared up quickly. Way better than a kidneystone, fwiw.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 6 days ago

Way better than a kidneystone, fwiw.

I would hope so considering many people, including women who have given birth, describe kidney stones as the worst pain they've ever felt lol.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 6 days ago

I needed more medication to numb than he thought--way more. Don't be afraid to speak up. Otherwise, the process was easy. I had discomfort for longer than he said, but that's just how my body is. Two years later, I still have some discomfort doing certain things (not common things), but again that's how my body is. That is how it is for some people, and I am just one of those few unlucky people. I have the ability to sense painful things greater than most and the ability to tolerate that pain more than most. It was still worth it. My wife and I were done having children and now we don't have to worry about any surprises.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 6 days ago

It was relatively fast and painless. I had someone drive me home, wore athletic protection for a few days, laid off of any sort of rigorous exercise, and its been a really straightforward recovery experience after that. No ragrets.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 6 days ago (1 children)

I am squeamish as all hell. Didn't think I could do it. There's a consult. They give you a Xanax, I'd recomme r telling them you're a heavyweight and get a driver, also recommend to pay the extra 100 bucks for the laughing gas.

It's over fast. There's minimal pain. I ordered a jock strap and used it to hold ice packs over my underwear. It's uncomfortable but I just layed up all weekend. Overall what I got out of it is completely worth it.

I'll answer any questions you have

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 days ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 5 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

A vasectomy.

Edit: sorry I get it now. I got peace of mind knowing that I was in control of contraception. Not having children means a lot of freedom. So basically freedom and peace of mind.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

There was an initial consultation, where the doctor told me that quite a few childless men want to get the procedure reversed later, but you should consider it "not reversible." Not a problem for me.

On the day I entered a very small room with a reclined chair. The lights were dimmed. The only pain was a brief "pinch" during anesthesia. This was "needleless" anesthesia with some kind of aerosol device, but a needle probably would have been about the same. Needles don't bother me, so I considered this a gimmick.

It was done a lot faster than I thought. I was chatting with the urologist the entire time. The stitches were in a different part of my scrotum than I imagined they would be (higher up). Initial recovery was fine, but a couple weeks later I did have some post-op pain that was pretty bad. NSAIDS, suprisingly, helped quite a bit. This recurred a few times a year for about five years and then never again. It was not an infection. From what I understand this is a rare side effect, but possible. For a lot of people it's totally painless, but that was my experience.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 days ago

Only thing I felt was the shot to numb me before they cut. Some tenderness afterward but all in all I’ve had worse pain stubbing my toe.

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[–] [email protected] 41 points 6 days ago (6 children)
  • No right to abortion in the United States
  • Giving someone who didn't get asked or consent to being born, the forced existence of life.
  • A child for a parent is expensive, mentally draining, and you have to be a good parent
  • You also have to be the parent for a child with any special needs, from allergies to mental issues to being born without limbs
  • If the child is any form of "other" to society, they will be picked on, and then possible harmed by the rise of Neo-Fascism
  • Work or starve, work or be cold, work until you die. Another tax number, another corporate slave.

Being born is fine, once you're here you should try to live life to its fullest. But I don't want kids, I would be a horrid father.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 6 days ago

Let's not forget about child care, cause you know, in this economy both parents typically need to work to keep their heads financially above water.

[–] [email protected] -1 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (9 children)

Giving someone who didn’t get asked or consent to being born

How do you signal a desire to be born, practically speaking? Who do you contact to indicate your desire to begin existing?

If you don't want to exist, why not simply surrender your place in line to someone who does?

[–] [email protected] 6 points 6 days ago

Ah yes, the classic "just kill yourself" argument. You totally destroyed that antinatalist.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 6 days ago (3 children)

Antinatalists aren't suicidal, most likely living, they just understand that life isn't a gift.

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago

This is a t-shirt for women! Parts of the men would be so mad at it!

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