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Seriously I see these posts all the time about people who have a co-worker who steals food so they make gross food to 'get back at them' cause HR doesn't do anything.

Legit question but how do you not just freak out and yell at the person? If a co-worker stole my food the 1st time I'd yell at them and curse them out, the 2nd time I'd threaten to shove the food in their fat face next time I see it happen. If HR didn't do anything I'd threaten to quit and sue if they claimed I don't get EI because it's a toxic work environment.

I just don't get how people are so passive when co-workers literally steal from them? I'd be fucking livid.

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[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago

The only work theft I ever tolerated was coffee creamer, because we all knew who was addicted to coffee, and we all sort of stole in a circle from each other for a day or two when we ran out of our own.

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago

How else are they going to identify middle management prospects?

[โ€“] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago

I agree. It's theft.

HR should absolutely get involved because it's going to really affect the working environment. And if you're hungry as a result, you're really not going to be doing your best work.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago

I'm with you. They're literally taking your sustenance. This is way serious.

[โ€“] [email protected] -1 points 1 month ago

When you find out the person stealing food is skipping meals to feed their family.

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago

I always keep Lunch in my backpack at my desk or eat in a cafeteria. The best way to be chill about a problem is to avoid having the problem.

[โ€“] [email protected] -4 points 1 month ago

Because here it's not normal to leave food at work.

That's why I can be so chill at it.

[โ€“] [email protected] 7 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)
  1. The average person wants peace in their life.

  2. These are the fringes that the malicious operate best.


  1. Because it's not really worth the hassle to you.

Most actually don't want to yell and scream at someone, to escalate a situation, to involve themselves with "authority figures" that do nothing but work preserve the hierarchy around them.

It's exhausting just to exist while we suffer this way of life. People just gotta pick their battles because we are losing the class war.

  1. Because they feel safe to antagonize relentlessly.

these malicious actors know the average person wants this peace. They pick and poke ceaselessly like the vultures they are. What are you gonna do about it? Nothing.

Even if you do stand your ground, you will be vilified for putting the front of their face into the back of their skull.

Or if you yell and scream, others will think you're crazy/dramatic/unreasonable regardless of the circumstances.

Or perhaps you plead uselessly to your indifferent "authority figures" who only exist to exploit you in the most efficient way possible. Utterly toothless. Can you be surprised? We are not free while living like this.

[โ€“] [email protected] 6 points 1 month ago

Because they don't know what i put in there.

[โ€“] [email protected] 17 points 1 month ago (1 children)

A guy I worked with had his lunch stolen from the freezer one day. He walked around and found the empty container in the trash of a new guy. He was canned that day.

[โ€“] [email protected] 21 points 1 month ago

Be wary of such proof.

As a young kid in the 80s, I went to stay for three days at an adventure centre. One barn was converted to house bunk beds and there were about 20 kids of about 11 years old. Everyone else was there for a week and I joined midway, and found it difficult to integrate.

One kid, the only one who had shown me any welcome, had his woolly hat stolen. Another kid suggested searching everyone's bags for it. There was general resistance, most kids thought he'd lost it somewhere and that never happened.

When I got home the following day and unpacked, I found the hat in my bag. Someone had planted it there, probably the kid who suggested searching bags. Taught me a lot about people, that did.

[โ€“] [email protected] 20 points 1 month ago

Never ever been in a place where people take food that isn't theirs. I cannot even comprehend it. And if it happened more than once I'd keep my food in a backpack at my desk.

Is it yours? If no don't touch. Simple as that.

[โ€“] [email protected] 6 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Where I work HR put a big sign on the refrigerator door about not stealing food

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago (1 children)
[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago (1 children)
[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago

Can't have shit in Detroit

[โ€“] [email protected] 22 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

I empathize with your outrage. I once worked at a place with 100+ employees and high turnover, and people would steal lunches there. When I first heard about it I was horrified. The reality is that the company doesn't care, and unless you're the person whose lunch is being stolen, most co-workers won't care either -- they wouldn't even know how to help you.

A solution could be as simple as a camera pointed at the fridge, along with firing any thieves. IMO the fact that most places don't take it seriously is evidence of how little they care about the employees.

[โ€“] [email protected] 13 points 1 month ago

I mean the real answer to your question is that those posts are all fake because the internet loves stories about revenge on such a small scale they can't be disproven.

But I want to know what kind of job keeps you by the fridge 24/7 so you can always witness food theft. Most people don't work in the break room, so they have no way of knowing who to yell at when their food disappears.

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