I've been wondering about definitions there for some time now. I do constantly wish i was a woman, and transitioning is something I've considered for quite a while but ultimately am not doing for two reasons
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i barely have my social anxiety under control enough to function normally (at least most of the time) and have some degree of social life, so the thought of transitioning before it is something accepted by >99% of society is horrifying.
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one of the primary aspects I dislike about being male is my appearance, but I also have at least found a style I'm mostly comfortable with and believe that with my current body state I'd just dislike how I look even more if I tried to present female, as it'd still be far from what I'd wanna look like.
Which is to say, if being trans were to stop being a social and political problem and I lost weight I'd start transitioning in a heartbeat, and I sure relate to a lot of experiences I see transfems talk about, but I feel like calling myself "trans" in this state isn't very fitting regardless since I feel like "trans" implies "not having decided not to transition". But maybe I'm wrong and it's more flexible than that.
Sorry for randomly dumping all that under a meme but it's been on my mind for a while and this felt like a reasonably appropriate place for it lol