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[–] [email protected] 15 points 3 days ago (1 children)

If you have to deal frequently with toilets with flush sensors at your office (or really any public restroom), you've probably been grossed out by them flushing (and spraying water at you) before you're ready.

As an adult, I learned that handle-adjacent sensors can be dealt with by hanging TP over them, and won't flush until you remove it as you're leaving the stall. Wall sensors (like one infamous office toilet I deal with) can be handled with a post it note placed over the sensor; I keep some at the office just for this purpose. In an emergency, sometimes spit-dabbing a piece of TP can stick it to the wall over the sensor, but this isn't as reliable.

Just get into these habits when you use sensor toilets, and you'll never have to worry about disgusting flush spray from prematurely flushing public toilets ever again.

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[–] [email protected] 44 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (4 children)

If you can't find the motivation to start doing a lengthy task (like cleaning the house, gardening, or working on a project), force yourself to do it only for 30 minutes. It's not an unreasonably long time. By the end, you'll either have gained enough momentum to keep going and finish it, or if not, you've still made 30 minutes of progress.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 days ago

Organizing tasks in pomodoros (which is really close to your method), is a great way to do things.

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[–] [email protected] 25 points 4 days ago

It not too late to learn a new skill or pick up a new hobby. If you hear of something that sounds fun, dive in!

[–] [email protected] 47 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Mise en place really helps my adhd brain with cooking. Prepping while managing the stovetop stresses me out unless it’s during a long simmer.

Get a vpn and torrent to your hearts content. The subscription services are too fractured. I’ve got Jellyfin, audiobookshelf, and mealie self hosted

If you want a rower go with the concept2. It’s the gold standard for indoor rower and they hold their value. I prefer going moderate effort long distance because then that time can be doubled up as audiobook/tv time

Edit: Besides exercise, which would ideally be a mix of cardio and strength work, make stretching a part of your routine. At least a few times a week. I mainly target the hamstrings and hip flexors

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[–] [email protected] 35 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Use the vibrator around the thighs and top of the pelvis. Tease it

[–] [email protected] 16 points 4 days ago

Similar; caress all around the boob, getting close to the nipple on occasion but not actually touching it. Tease it.

[–] [email protected] 50 points 4 days ago (1 children)

A recent one I found: If you get a pain in your back that returns whenever you walk.. Take a trip to the wildest wilderness you can reach without needing to walk there, then start walking on uneven terrain. It is a huge difference on the muscles the body need. And just a forest path with a few roots isnt enough. Get off the path. Take the harder route. And be careful to not hurt yourself, of course.

[–] [email protected] 20 points 4 days ago (4 children)

Is that just to work out your core muscles? Because these easier ways to work them out.

[–] [email protected] 22 points 4 days ago

Yeah, basically that's what they're suggesting. Work on strengthening your stabilization muscles.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Im no physician, I dont know.

My chiropractor made a small suggestion that a walk in the forest could help, and I discarded it because I was already "walking in the forest" a lot. Except I kept to the well-trodden paths. And I walked on asphalt to get to the forest. And it didnt really help. And the exercises he told me to do at home didnt really do much.

[–] [email protected] 29 points 4 days ago (4 children)

Probably was from getting away from the chiropractor, ngl

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[–] [email protected] -1 points 4 days ago (9 children)

Save & invest 50% of your paycheck for 10 years, and you could technically retire (as long as your cost base does not go up).

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 days ago

Check yo privilege

[–] [email protected] 13 points 3 days ago (2 children)

You can, if you can. I think most people can't do that though.

The better lesson would be to teach compound interest. Somebody that invests $2k every year for 10 years and then stops will have more money than somebody who starts in year 11 and does so for the rest of their life.

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[–] [email protected] 37 points 4 days ago (2 children)
[–] [email protected] 14 points 3 days ago

i like these threads; it shows how disconnected from reality some of us are.

[–] [email protected] 49 points 4 days ago

It's easy, just stop paying rent and eating.

[–] [email protected] 26 points 4 days ago (1 children)

as long as your cost base does not go up

Inflation and greedflation would like a word.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Inflation

That’s what the investing is for isn’t it?

[–] [email protected] 4 points 4 days ago (1 children)

So if the investment is for inflation, what are you going to survive from?

[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 days ago (3 children)

Historically, investing in a broad-market index fund has seen 8-12% annual returns. Average inflation in the US has been around 2-3%. Subtract another 3-4% for taxes, and you're still making at least 3%.

Anyways, the point is more about the fact how powerful saving & compounding is. Save early in life, and try to not inflate your lifestyle too much, and then you can technically reach financial independence.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 days ago (1 children)

You call 3% significant gains? I mean it's better than nothing, but i don't think it's going to be worth breaking one's neck over

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 days ago

I'm not sure anyone called it significant gains?

Anyways, 50% is really just an example to show what can be possible through saving & investing. Saving any amount of money, at a regular rate, can quickly become more than you think, when compounding is in play.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Past performance is no guarantee of future gains

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Agreed, no investment can be guaranteed. However, average return of s&p 500 over 100 years has been 10%. Average return of an example index-fund, VTI, since inception in 2001 has been around 8%.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I'm of the opinion that the stock market is overvalued right now, mainly pumped up by tech stocks which are overvalued due to AI hype. I can't help but think eventually all the baby boomers are going to want to cash out and enjoy their invested money while they're still alive.

But on another note, do you expect the stock market to perpetually trend up? I suppose inflation helps keep stock prices up because the dollar is worth less than before.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 days ago (1 children)

The reality is, you'll never be able to time it perfectly. Contributing over time, rather than lump-sum, will spread the risk.

If something does happen to the stock market, we'll all be fucked. Pretty much every country, company, and individual is invested in some shape or form. Pensions, insurance etc.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

If something does happen to the stock market, we'll all be fucked.

I don't think that's true. Even though all the things you mentioned should be diversified, if something terrible effects the markets then there will be bail outs, rate cuts, and/or money printing. What I had in mind though, is that infinite growth is impossible in our finite universe. And there's no bail out for our planet, yet no one cares that we're all fucked if it becomes uninhabitable

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[–] [email protected] 17 points 4 days ago (2 children)

If you can set aside 50 % of your money, you are already independent.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

No, independent would mean you could cease that source of income and maintain your lifestyle. If you save 50% of your first paycheck and then quit I doubt that would be the case.

Being able to set that much aside would definitely make one wealthy (or live a very austere lifestyle) and fast track them toward independence, but it’s not an automatic qualifier.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 days ago

I was able to do that for a few years bit I was living with my parents and paying them a pittance for rent. Certainly not independent. All my expenses shot up when I left but I was able to pay a lot of my loans off before that.

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[–] [email protected] 20 points 4 days ago (2 children)

Toilet roll under if you have a cat or pet who likes to rip off bits of them.

Toilet roll over for everything else.

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[–] [email protected] 129 points 4 days ago (5 children)

You can say no: to volunteer work, to events you don't want to go to, to doing favors to people. The power of no is amazing

[–] [email protected] 14 points 4 days ago (2 children)

Use a virtual credit card when signing up for subscription services. Set the recurring amount at just enough to cover the trial amount, and then once the subscription fee goes up it'll notify you if you wish to continue paying for it. You can increase the limit if you want to keep the service, or just let the card decline until the service is cancelled. Most credit cards have virtual cards as an option, but I also use app.paywithextend.com

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 4 days ago

Exactly what I needed to read today. Thank you πŸ‘

[–] [email protected] 15 points 4 days ago (2 children)

cook for yourself at least once a week. Not only is it a good skill to keep polished, you get great control over what you're actually eating. Keeps you grounded to society, the cost of primary prices, and you can compare kitchen costs versus restaurant cost easily. It keeps you involved in society.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 4 days ago (2 children)

Nice to hear it not framed around health only, for once. From most advice it is seemingly impossible to live a healthy life if you dont cook yourself six days a week. Which seems ridicilous. Particularly for one who doesnt enjoy cooking (even though I do know how to cook decent meals).

Wish there was restaurants around here that was more like mess halls, priced at a level everyone could afford to eat at every day, made from healthy local ingredients, shared tables, no attempt at "mood" or theme, no waiters, you get whats served today and no alternatives except for those with particual dietary needs. I ate at the local poor-house once and it was almost what I would have wanted if they just got rid of the preacher and added a payment terminal. I heard those kinda eateries were common back around the early 1900. Why we at some point decided that everyone should mostly cook their own meals, or buy over-salted pre-made meals, and that restaurants should either be a luxury and involve a lot of waiting for a table and a waiter and the meal and the oversized bill and the waiter again to pay, or be fastfood so unbalanced that nobody should really eat it daily.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (2 children)

From most advice it is seemingly impossible to live a healthy life if you dont cook yourself six days a week

For health reasons I am on a diet that has minimal carbohydrates, almost zero. And no seed oils.

For my health journey, it is impossible to eat at a restaurant healthily. even if I order straight meat, many restaurants will cook it in seed oil, so I can never be sure. I.e. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N8w8LKwOeO0

My only option is basically a salad. Which is fine, but not sustainable.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (1 children)

If I may ask, why can't you have seed oils?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 days ago

inflamation

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 days ago

That sucks.

But it IS solvable, if a restaurant's goal wasnt purely to earn the most money possible, I would think. Maybe not on-demand but if they knew you'd be eating daily (subscribtion?) then having a slower no-contaminant part of a kitchen making dietary-different meals would be a nice addition.

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[–] [email protected] 45 points 4 days ago (6 children)

Avoid subscription services. You may pay more short term, but you won't have to remember to cancel anything

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[–] [email protected] 27 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Build up a routine of scheduled exercise. It's amazing when you get deep into a job how little time you have, and it's easy to put exercise to the wayside. Make it part of your schedule when it's flexible, and then hold it when it becomes difficult. Exercise has massive outside benefits to overall health mood etc

[–] [email protected] 9 points 4 days ago

Yes! I got a stationary bike and set it up with a view of the TV. Now instead of just sitting on the couch watching TV I at least get exercise doing it.

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