“I’m a Stalinist but I’ve also been reading a lot of Mao lately and really starting to appreciate his work”
This accomplishes three things at once:
- The standard left/right framing is completely off the table now
- It demonstrates that there are different strands of communism and you know the differences
- The attention is now completely off of “so you’re saying you’re a commie” and instead goes to “wait what’s the difference between Stalin and Mao?”
That’s your way in. About 2/3 of the people I’ve talked to ended up being more curious about why I make it such a big deal between Stalin and Mao rather than going straight into their preprogrammed “oh you’re just a commie” schtick. You now have a small window to educate them.