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Anyone else remember using Facebook to find out if your new crush was available?
I mean besides rating women, that was the initial purpose of FB.
The goal of a dating app isn’t to bring people together, it’s to foster endless scrolling and ad engagement.
I met my wife in a free MMORPG called kal online. I recommend going this route. We have been together for... fuck me almost 20 years now.
That being said j would love a bdsm/kink dating app.
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I got laid like 20-30 times from Friendster "drive-bys."
I don't think it was the tech bros that tossed that aside, but the users. I was there at the beginning when Facebook was just college students, but then they opened it to high schools, and then when my Aunt Joyce friended me it was basically over. Once your family is watching you who the fuck is going to be updating their relationship status
I absolutely know people who started relationships through early Facebook. It was only open to college kids, and the whole site was designed to find likeminded people near to your existing friend group. Anyone remember the "six degrees of separation" feature that would show the chain of friend connections between you and another user?
Even eHarmony was better than simply saying who was single. The entire concept of "dating apps" is good for hookups, but terrible for dating.
It definitely doesn't work for me
Idk, meeting an absolute stranger that you texted with for a day or so with the pressure and expectation of romance just sounds like a recipe for failure.
Starting a romance with someone you already have some history with or share a community with seems more plausible. I used to click with someone and then immediately run home to find out if they were available or not so I could find out if it was safe to develop a crush.
How was eHarmony different that tinder or bumble? I never used it.
Exactly this… I used those swipey apps for a few years. Went on lots of dates. Had a few I could’ve taken further. Had a few I wanted to go further. It all was pretty shallow though.
Eventually, I just went with someone I actually had known for years.
On my brief 4-6 month career on Tinder many years ago, one of the only "successful" dates was someone who was trying to force it as much as possible. In their defense though, I feel like the apps encourage this.
It was here I learned that it was a huge turn-off for me and that I prefer to meet people organically.
It works for some people. I'm glad I'm in a good relationship and don't need to deal with that stuff but I also have a friend who met various women through the apps for a period until he met a certain special one, you could see it in him that week. And now years later they're happily married.
I'm mostly thinking about before the days of "swipe right/swipe left" but you put in information about your personality and you got recommendations based on that.
It wasn't so frantic or based on getting every match you could get, it was about getting matches that were most likely to click with you.
Craigslist personals were actually ok before they shut them down due to sex worker spam.