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[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 months ago

Oooof we ikea'd mightily today. I got fuck all done around the house

[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (2 children)

I'm going to watch Inside Out 2 tomorrow, I've decided. To prepare I just rewatched Inside Out at home and honestly every time I fall in love with it all over again. It's one of the best ever films I've watched, period.

This is no mere kid's film, it's a goddamn psychology class and therapy rolled into one. It brings me to tears, every time (and this must be the fifth time at least). And every time i notice new details, and events of the film have new meaning...

rambling because seriously guys i love this film

This is the first time I've watched it post lockdown and I was honestly ugly crying at the point when Joy realises Sadness needed to take over. I mean i cry at that point every time anyway (also when Sadness sits next to Bing Bong and just listens). But this time it hit so much harder after the huge events of past years: the loss of friends, the irreversible life changes, isolation, the realisation that some joyful parts of the past are truly over and can't drive us any more, and have to be let go to move on to new joy, the sadness taking over happy memories, the rebuilding of new networks by letting emotions blend, and of course one of the big morals of the story - don't keep trying to push through and be happy all the time, embrace the difficult feelings or everything starts breaking down. Deny sadness and you get locked out of your brain with depression.

This film has meant so much to me over the years because I've always been Sadness - Negative Nelly, Debbie Downer, the character in the film to a tee - and both hated and defended that fact fiercely growing up. This was honestly the first film that gave me the permission to embrace it and be proud of it - especially the mum having Sadness running the show with empathy, it was the first time I truly understood who I could become rather than forcing myself to be someone else.

I can't get over how the creators weaved these personal experiences we've all had and actual psychological concepts into such vivid, coherent, playful imagery that doesn't just track as a very entertaining kid's adventure film but also as an incredibly creative and powerful metaphoric film for all ages. I could watch it every year til I die, honestly.

Of course I don't have such high hopes for the sequel. But I can't not watch it when the original means so much to me. β€οΈβ€πŸ©Ή

[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 months ago

I really feel you on this so, so much. I loved the first movie too, which I watched when it came out. I want to watch the 2nd one, but I just know that I won't be able to cope if I watch it with where I'm at at the moment

[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

so many hugs, just reading your experience made me cry

It's on my watchlist nowπŸ’—

[–] [email protected] 4 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (2 children)

Went to Fairfield boathouse this weekend. Haven’t been before. Very Old Timey style. Had decent scones and a some very nice walking tracks next to the Yarra. Would be amazing if they gave it a renno like Studley park, but keeping the heritage. I think the location is actually nicer than Studley park, due to the walks and views. Would go again.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 months ago

Gave my dad haircut there back in COVID days as it was in between both our lock down distances ... Oppa-covid-style....

[–] [email protected] 4 points 4 months ago (1 children)

It's a lovely place to chill on a sunny summer morning. Next to it is a mini greek amphitheatre - stand on the bronze disk and speak normally and your voice is magnified by the surrounding walls. There was often performances there in summer pre-covid - and I expect these will start up again fairly soon. A beautiful space.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 months ago (1 children)

I did wonder if the amphitheatre was ever used! Hopefully they reinstate it.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 months ago

Attended a performance of Euripides' The Bacchae there. Powerful and strange. Especially in the kind of setting the play was intended to be performed in. I really got it then that theatre had its roots in religious ritual.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (1 children)

Randomly watching Lethal Weapon. Very very 80s. Especially the mood setting sax....

Edit

.. make that sax with accompanying guitar solo

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 months ago (1 children)

The interplay between Gibson and Glover is pure 80s.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

Edit.... Danny Glover was ripped as

[–] [email protected] 11 points 4 months ago

Wow. I decided I wanted to go to the shops and grab some choccy and it turned into a rollercoaster. Only 2 minutes longer to walk than catch PT so I decided may as well get the exercise in (one bad thing + 1 good thing cancel each other out, right? About 5 minutes in I realise that was a bad decision when I walk past a dude tagging up a wall, and the section with streetlights finished and I'm walking through dingey industrial alleyways while it's pitch black (even if it was only 6:30). Get to the shops at 6:48 and the doors I tried to go in were locked "oh sorry, you'll have to go to the other doors". Ugh. Any guesses how long of a walk that is? 1.2km.... 1.2km to get to the doors on the other side, rather than walking 200 metres inside....................

Anyways I finally got there and one of the doors was locked, which I actually thought meant those doors were closed too, which made my heart sink. But nah, they just locked one of them. Get to Kmart and hear beeping and thudding, like the noise their roller doors might make (got there at 7:05 and they close at 8). But no, maintenance people were just doing work on scissor lifts out the front.

Coming home I decided I'd take the tram back, just because I didn't want to walk back that dinky little dodgy arse alley way that 100% looks like it belongs in Chicago. So I walked about 5 minutes (out of 10) down this other dimly lit side street (but with houses rather than warehouses), and realised I'm going to miss my tram (tram was 6 minutes away, I was 5) so I picked up the pace and then google maps stopped showing me where the tram was, and I thought I'd missed it. But then a minute later I saw the tram lights and assumed it was my tram. But then when the tram was slowing down I realised I didn't actually know whether I was on the right side or not, and if this was my tram (I'd checked tram tracker after my tram vanished and both sides had trams due at the same time)

I decided to just get on and figure it out later, worst case I'll go the wrong way but probably end up somewhere that feels safer. It was my tram though, and now I'm back with chocolate! I got some of those freckle things and a cherry ripe, so it's not all bad!

TL:DR the shops suck, google maps sucks, I suck, and the area my hotel is in sucks

[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 months ago (1 children)

It was my niece's dance thingo today. Her first time on stage. Her and 3 other pre-school aged kids and it was just as you'd imagine it to be.

When they were led out onto the stage by their teacher at the start of the song, one of the little girls immediately jumped off the stage, ran to her grandma in the front row and opted out. This was after she'd been having a great time rolling around on the stage before the event started. There was a little boy who just stood on the stage and stared at his family looking mildly upset. Another little girl at least had a go but wasn't paying much attention to the teacher who was leading them and then finally my niece was actually trying her hardest to follow the teacher's moves. She was the best!

We stayed for about half a dozen or so more music students' performances who were older and did things like play guitar, play drums along to Metallica/ACDC/RHCP songs, sing and play piano. A little boy played the first 3rd of Bohemian Rhapsody on the grand piano almost flawlessly. Kid would have been like 8 tops I think, but I'm not great with guessing ages. Super impressive. The whole thing was to get the kids performing in front of people so they all messed up at various points, which is fine. They pushed through and got to the end of their performances.

Then my niece decided that she wanted to leave so we ducked out of there before she could really passionately start stating her intentions for the exit.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 4 months ago

Remind my of my first theatrical performance, in a school nativity play. I had the role of a wise man's camel. I got distracted by everything happening and missed my cue, so instead of my wise man "riding" a camel he got to walk in whilst his camel belatedly scurried behind.🀣

[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 months ago (1 children)

After seeing the trailer for Beetlejuice 2 I have a gut feeling I'm going to be underwhelmed.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 4 months ago (2 children)

Oh I watched the first one with my mum many years ago when I was going through a horror phase. I was not a fan. Also watched a replay of a really old movie along a similar vein at the drive ins a few years ago. Can't remember what it was called, but weird people broke down in the bush and then they broke into a house and weird people started singing or something like that. I didn't like that one either. Horror has to be horror for me, no horror comedy

[–] [email protected] 4 points 4 months ago

I enjoyed the first one. I wouldn't describe Beetlejuice as horror. Not strictly anyway. Maybe fantasy comedy with a splash of horror.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 months ago (1 children)

That second one sounds like it could be a description of Rocky Horror Picture Show, which is not really horror but definitely involves weird people singing.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 4 months ago

THATS THE ONE! Google listed it (and still lists it) as a horror/musical, although I agree, didn't really get the "horror" aspect. But I zoned out about 30 minutes in, so I definitely missed most of it

[–] [email protected] 14 points 4 months ago (3 children)

Really nice swim tonight. Didn't hit too hard.

Also first open fire of the year:

Been waiting for this.

bliss.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 4 months ago

I should really set more things on fire. It's so lovely.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 months ago

Ugh. Want. Miss open fires a lot. Therapeutic, mesmerising, beats being on a screen for sure.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 months ago

that looks lovely πŸ”₯πŸ₯°

[–] [email protected] 12 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (4 children)

Despite everything that's happened, I miss my friend.

We've known each other about 5 years, and been through thick and thin. We referred to each other as family. I was there for him, and he was there for me.

It all turned to shit pretty quickly once he got together with a new partner. We went from chatting a couple of times a week on the phone, to radio silence.

And then all the spiteful stuff that came afterwards. ie: telling me to give up trying to get an IT gig, withdrawing his reference (knowing full well at the time that I'd be fucked without it) almost like he wants me to fail.

I'm hurt. Deeply. And I know his new partner has something to do with it. But at the end of the day, they are his choices.

There's no coming back from what's happened. The door is shut from my end.

And so life goes on. My ability to trust in people a little more shaken.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 months ago

And about still missing him.

that's because you remember the good times you had together.

so don't feel guilty , hugs

[–] [email protected] 4 points 4 months ago

Some people just aren't who we think they are, or they change. And it sucks when they're dickheads, it hurts.

Having said that, and experienced it, I think most people are good and kind hearted. But when we ourselves have traumatic pasts, we attract those who seek to harm us.

Drop the turd and thrive, king πŸ’œ

[–] [email protected] 4 points 4 months ago

So many hugs.

It's him, really, None of what he did and said was anything like what a friend does. Not even a good ex friend would ever want you to fail.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 4 months ago

Yikes. I'm sorry you had to go through that.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 4 months ago (4 children)

Fried up some chicken, mixed it with the leftover savoury rice mix and made parcels out of it, some with flatbread and some with leftover pizza dough. Did more laundry, very nearly finished it too lol. Watched some wrestling with Elder minipeeler. He said he wants to be a pro wrestler when he grows up. I think he's partly been inspired by how accessible, friendly and cool the guys at Lucha Fantastica are. I could picture him as a luchador in a travelling show, and I don't know exactly how I feel about that. Not that it makes any difference, it's his dream not mine. Miniest wants to be 10 different things and doesn't know which thing to pick. I said why pick one? You can be an artist and a vet and a cake decorator and run an animal refuge and design gardens etc. Look at Leonardo da Vinci, he was lots of things.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

I love this advice. So much of what we hear at schools and in the workplace and society in general is that people can be only one thing. To be many things , but mainly being your own true self following all your dreams and talents , is a really good thing. πŸ₯°

[–] [email protected] 4 points 4 months ago (1 children)

I used to work with guys who did pro-wrestling, there was a scene for it in Melbourne. If they won't take kids, else see if you can get him to try some gymnastics to build a useful foundation.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 4 months ago

Sound advice, thanks for that!

[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 months ago

Aim high, kids β™₯

[–] [email protected] 7 points 4 months ago

You're the best Mum 😘

[–] [email protected] 9 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

Oh man, I’m going through it.

Melbcat is having a rough go of it, the cold has flared her arthritis but the nausea from antibiotics means she won’t eat her meals with her regular pain meds in.

She’s been having shots of both pain/anti nausea medication at the vet to break the cycle and I’m giving wafers/liquid meds orally every 12 hours at home. She’s now eaten a little bit twice and takes treats but is still refusing almost every wet meal.

Me, I’ve got some serious health stuff going on and am deeply pissed off about it

[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 months ago

Caught Perfect Days with a friend, I went in wanting to diss it tbh but came out generally enjoying it, it didn't romanticise menial worker life in Japan as much as I expected it to and I enjoy that it didn't infantilise the viewers. Good one to watch on the big screen and soak up the Vibes.

Procrastinating big time on some study items that I have to put my big girl pants on and do because nobody else will and it's self structured so up to me to figure out... So of course I end up mopping the floors which I've been putting off for months. It's good though, because the house has now got a real clean energy.

Dinner, and then I'm going to just sit in front of my laptop and force myself to read some journal articles to get the ball rolling at least.

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