LGBTQ+

I'm late but I really wish more people knew what a "queer platonic partner" relationship was.

I usually just use "partner" for my QPP because it's easier than to even briefly explain, but just because I'm asexual aromantic doesn't mean I don't want a relationship that "stands out" more than the others. and just because I do, doesn't mean every ace/aro person does! there's so much nuance to the LGBTQ+ community and I think people forget that a lot and choose to isolate to their spot in the acronym.

a QPP isn't someone you're dating, and I'm really tired of people talking about my "girlfriend" (because let's also ignore that they're non-binary!) alternative relationships exist to the typical "path" and assumptions plus choosing to not learn is really damaging. and that goes for every LGBTQ+ topic. or, hell, the nuance to every individual person.

I just want to drop a link to queer platonic relationships specifically, too.

That there are divisions and prejudice within the community. It's better for everyone involved to put on a united front, but unfortunately people get put down and marginalized even in supposedly queer-friendly spaces all the time. In my own circles, it happens a lot with bisexual men and non-binary/gender non-conforming persons in particular.

This is such a small thing which I have so few occasions to use, but I wish the term "QUILTBAG" had become more popularized when it was coined in 2006 (caps are for accuracy, not shouting). It's just more fun to say, and I'm a sucker for a good acronym

Ace people are queer too :)

And really, some of us have 0 interest in sex please stop asking us. Believe it or not, romance isn't sexual in and of itself, so it's not impossible for us to crave romance and have no desire for sex.

And, many of us are this way without ever having experienced trauma. It's necessary to ask someone about trauma in a relationship, but don't assume it's the reason for the lack of sexual interest. (In many cases it is a or the reason, but that doesn't take away from the fact that a person doesn't want to engage in sex)

Coming out is not a single, grand event. It's a decision we have to make repeatedly, sometimes even daily.

Do I have the energy to correct the dude I bought a guitar cable from who assumed I have a wife? I was tired and cranky that day so I didn't correct him, now I have to deal with feeling weird or even a tad guilty for not standing up for myself or my partner even on such a tiny level.

It's getting better, but I really don't appreciate how many people seem to think that "drag queen" and "being a transgender person" is interchangeable and exactly the same.

For clarity for anyone who isn't sure, drag queens are performers who often (but not always) identify as gay men in their day to day lives. A drag queen is a caricature of a woman, a massive exaggeration for entertainment purposes. Drag queens are like clowns, and clowns don't go around in their day to day life identifying as a clown. It's a job, a gig, a temporary identity for entertainment purposes.

Transgender people have gender dysphoria that is so unbearable that they have no choice but to bear all of the negative things that come with coming out as transgender in order for them to have some tiny speck of hope at being happy and comfortable in their own bodies. Transgender people, unlike drag queens, always do identify with their chosen gender representation.

Some of the pictures people see of the big book burning fests that happened in Germany in the 1930s weren't generalized events. One of them was the Nazis specifically destroying the works of Magnus Hirschfeld, who ran the Institute for Sexual Research, that studied sexuality and gender issues and provided the earliest instances of gender affirming care. They sacked the institute, destroyed it, and burned all of the material there.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Magnus_Hirschfeld

This is to say: trans people have always been here. And nearly a century later, the destruction of this institute has been widely forgotten.

that a part of the reason why queer people seem to be a recent invention is that Nazis burned the archives of an institute containing literature on The Gay

Transgender priestesses led insurgencies against the invading American army.

Bi people are all around you we mostly just pass as strait and are encouraged to remain invisible by identifying as straight or as gay by the straight and gay friend groups we know.

I think the amount of transphobes in the world would be waaay smaller if everyone knew what gender dysphoria is