Lemmy Dadsplain

I’ve felt like this before for sure. Best advice I can offer is to try your best to include your kids in your hobbies. Sure if your hobbies were doing drugs or getting blackout drunk at the clubs, then you’ll probably not be able to bring your kids. Though if you like golf/woodworking/video games… something like that, pack up the diapers and bottles or snacks or whatever and bring them with you. Babies sleep proportionately to how much formula they drink and older kids will eat up any menial task you give them to “help”.

Give it a try. It might not be the exact experience you had before, but you may be pleasantly surprised.

There’s nothing wrong with handing off your kids once a week for some “me” time. Assuming you have a partner and reciprocate, of course.

Obviously, life and kids being unpredictable can keep that from happening reliably. But you do need and deserve adult time with your social group.

Now again, make sure you’re reciprocating for your partner, assuming you have one. They deserve their own adult time.

And of course, get a babysitter so yall can have some adult time together. Don’t underestimate the need for date night.