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The best thing you can do for the fediverse is just be kind (lemmy.world)
submitted 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
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The fediverse is small, and thats both a blessing and a curse - one of its several blessings is that in a smaller space we all individually have a bigger impact on what the culture of this space is like.

On this comm (and on lemmy broadly) there's a lot of discussion about how to grow the fediverse, what to improve, but an easy thing you can do for the fediverse is right in front of us-

  • Be kind

  • Ask people what they think, and why

  • Approach folks you disagree with with curiosity rather than hostility (EDIT: no, this is not specifically referring to Nazis. I get it, they're the first thing that comes to mind. I'm not telling you to approve of Nazis I'm just saying be kind to your fellow lemmites)

  • Engage sincerely

  • Ask yourself if there's something nice you can say

  • Make this small space worth being in

A platform lives or dies by what's available on said platform and often we have this conversation in the context of "content" or posts - and we may never have as much content as reddit does. But content and posts aren't the only thing this kind of platform offers- it also offers people. It offers community, and human interaction.

Culture and community is lemmy and the fediverse's biggest differentiator, and we all have a role to play in shaping the culture of this space.

The biggest thing you can do to help the fediverse is make it a place worth being.

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I usually try to until the other person shows me that there's no reason to be.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 week ago

Then just stop responding to them.

Your reasoning matches with some of the most hostile people out there because they have alarms that are very easy to trip. So virtually everyone "shows them there's no reason to be" kind.

For example, someone disagrees with you? They must be far too stupid to understand what you're writing or intentionally missing the point just to attack you, so there's no reason to be kind to them.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

@Cris_Color

offtopic:
Test to see if from here it is possile to engage the friendica server of @utopiarte and @requeteche.

btw and ontopic:

Image of the terms of service of the tupambae server. First of all they claim to be unknown, obscure and completely arbitrary in the moment. Than they list standard rules of behavior: be kind to each other. try not to be rude. try not to be hurtful. try not to suppose.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago

thx @jesuisatirebitpickup, this now came over, no idea why the inicial post by search didn't show up, some Lemmy/friendica issue, or maybe the it's because squeet.me is on the dev branch.
(upss, nope 2024.12 database version 1576/1576)

Also, your mention wasn't notified, this just appeared in the stream. Let's do a general reshare so this is ported over to diaspora too.
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@requeteche @Cris_Color

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago

Love this post!

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 week ago

Yeah try telling people here to be kind

This place is still nicer then reddit but it's still got problems with a**hole users

  • The ones that spam a certain viewpoint amd downvote people who disagree with them and I'm not talking about bigoted users who you should downvote as they want dystopia but users who have different viewpoints to them

  • People who act like assholes if you don't share their holier-than-thou viewpoint that they try to enforce everywhere

  • The users here who insist everyone here be atheists, I'm not atheist nor am I religous (I also have a dislike for organised religons) but I still do dislike those kinds of users

  • The people here who act like like a**holes when you critique something or give feedback

I'm sure there's more I'm missing but those are what I remember from the top of my head that I dislike about certain lemmy users and why I think not everyone here is capable of being kind

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago (1 children)

We also need people sharing their niche interests and creating discussion... Reddit thrives on these small communities that only find an accessible entrypoint on their platform.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 week ago

The only problem is lemmy seems to be hostile to certain niches specifically ones closer to spiritual realted stuff

And just to make this clear to idiots who want to be idiots SPIRITUALITY IS NOT RELIGON

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 week ago

I honestly feel like I can do better in this area. Thanks for the post. Gives me something to think about.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 week ago

I have mysteriously vanished for like 2 or so months now (which is a good thing, please take breaks from the internet every once in a while), I don't really remember NOT being kind here.

And this post reminds me of why Lemmy is a good place to begin with.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 week ago

Speaking past each other is IMO the biggest source of friction and division on the fediverse.

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