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1 in 4 adults think smacking is necessary to 'properly raise' kids. But attitudes are changing (theconversation.com)

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[–] [email protected] 0 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

There isn’t any good reason to hit your children as discipline. It may stop the behavior but it is gonna teach kids to use violence to deal with conflict with their peers or cause them anxiety later in life.

Spanking is coping for the parent, it isn’t effective or fair for the child. That being said, fear works and being generally gentle doesn’t so I understand why some parents feel like they have to. But it causes more damage than it fixes.

If you feel overwhelmed by parenting there is nothing wrong with seeking help via family therapy or even hiring a coach to assist you on how to handle difficult discipline situations with difficult children

[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

I always struggle with this because it wasn't ever a big deal and I say that as the one getting spanked. It happened twice and afterwards, the threat was used to let me know when I was crossing the line. I certainly didn't "use violence" against my peers growing up.

I feel like most folks when they talk about kids being spanked, what they're imagining is more akin to child abuse rather than spanking.

It's just a tool like any other. It works on some kids, it doesn't on others.