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Off to the bellarine today. Bit of a hard time convincing mum to come with but got there (probably could've gone about that differently).
Taking her around the garden and showing the new side path yesterday was not a very good indication it's just not safe for her to be alone and it's making me wonder about how to go about exercise / physio. Have to pace this as it's already overload. Basically too many people telling her what do which is pissing her off and will lead to refusal.
Won't be much of a break for her but hoping the change will lift her mood (even though she's shitty she has to come down).
On the plus side dynamic b/w old man and I has completely changed. We're agreeing on everything and whilst more medical stuff, is very (very) new and a nice change.
The docs gave me some advice about my Mum when her health and cognitive processes started to go haywire - don't forbid anything, don't insist on anything except her pills. Let her drive the process of coming back to life, after a major shock to her system. I suspect your Mum is having a serious self-re-assessment from old healthy person who is essentially OK, to old not-so-healthy person who needs help. This is major major shift. Takes time.
Thank you for this advice.
This is pretty much the case.
I need to dial the insisting down a bit methinks.
I had to learn the hard way on the insisting front - and my brother never did. Caused a lot of stress to everyone.
Did she receive any PT/OT during her stay? They would usually give her some basic exercises and education.
Rehab in the home is an option, too, if concerned about the convenience of attending appointments.
I was surprised how little info they gave her. Funnily enough she used to be an OT.
But I think you're right in home rehab is a good idea it's just whether she'll be okay with it.
Yeah, unfortunately it can really depend on the situation/length of stays and how pts are flagged/referred.
Very cool, but also tough. I donβt think anything quite prepares you from personally experiencing situations youβve likely seen/treated other people for. I think rehab in the home is a good choice. It takes the stress out of transport and it can be more comfortable in your own environment.
Maybe just some brochures and leave it with her. It would be tough when everyone has an opinion. People mean well, but I know it can be frustrating.