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need some of that DT perspective.
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So for Christmas this year we are traveling to the inlaws, this involves a short flight to a state we cant drive to (I'll give you 2 guesses). Not STOKED about traveling cause its MUCH easier for them to come to us, but whatever. They often to a greater family thing on Christmas day. I've been asking for months what the plan is. Finally found out that Christmas day plans are 2 hours drive from their place, strike 2. And that there isnt room for us to stay the night so we would have to drive back (for a total of 4 hours in the car) or spend over 1k on accommodation overnight, strike 3. Given we only fly in Christmas eve (and i depart day after boxing day) Im a bit.... not enthused about the whole thing.Mrs B is acting like im the asshole for not wanting to travel or spend even more than we had originally planned to do, I claim the goalposts have been moved and its too much to expect of us with a toddler. So, thoughts?
NTA. I wouldnโt do any of this let alone with a small child. Itโs too much to ask and itโs just begging for tantrums because heโs hungry or overtired or overstimulated or bored. Or difficulties involving vomiting or nappy changes.
The adults can also get tired and stressed, maybe get into fights.
Itโs ultimately between you guys but I looked at that itinerary and it all looks like way too much.
Iโm extremely antisocial and introverted irl so would probably refuse and if need be I would fake illness
its more a money thing for me. I spending all this money to go spend christmas with them and they decide "actually, we might not even do christmas here" is a but sucky.
Maybe tell them itโs too expensive to do it then.
Hopefully Mrs B agrees somewhat that 1k plus flights plus misc is too much.