this site is actually so mean literally all the time so im posting this here to let you know you’re not ‘too sensitive’ or something for not wanting to deal with attacks on your gender/body/intelligence for daring to exist and have fun online. the freaks that act like this are NOT the norm (they are just the loud and obnoxious minority) and it’s OK to take your time in recognizing this. <3
Yeah, the site is mean. The doomerism is also really strong here. I should probably just try to cut out social media entirely. It's not good for me.
lemmy was like the poison that got me on the road to recovery lol. after years of reddit i was literally one of the first ppl here in the post-api wave, i couldn’t give up scrolling but was so mad about the ethics. switched instances a couple times but in the end you just realize that social media as a concept, even if it’s technically hosted non-profit, is still structured after a model that was created to serve capital. lemmy still enables toxicity in the same way reddit did, and i was just like damn why would i invest time in a platform that doesn’t even make me happy haha
I know a lot of Lemmy turns their nose up at it because it’s not FOSS, but Bluesky has been legitimately chill IME. The subscribable block/mute lists and the way blocks break quote posts are a game changer. People who are chronic assholes end up shouting into the void and people who aren’t chronic assholes get the picture real quick
I'm annoyed with how mastodon works and I don't think it's ever going to change, so I might give bluesky a try.