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[–] [email protected] 42 points 13 hours ago* (last edited 13 hours ago) (1 children)

The problem in the U.S. is that you can deny people adoptions if they're a different religion from the official stated religion of the agency (many adoption agencies are religious), or if they just have a religious objection to you adopting (i.e. you're a single woman or queer).

It's also super expensive.

[–] [email protected] 20 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

It’s also super expensive.

This is because adoption of healthy infants in the US is a market. A regulated and yet still dysfunctional one, and one with a pretty weird relationship to its supply side, but that's absolutely what it is. It was even worse in decades past.

As an adoptee from the Mormon system, let me tell you that if I hadn't already bailed on that bonkers religion, it would have happened after visiting the "Family Services" office by slinking through the side door in the food storage warehouse in the light-industrial park in search of my legally entitled information, only to learn it was a one-page printout of nonsense and very much did not include the letter I was later told by my birth mother that she'd given them. I also grew up knowing that I cost approximately as much as a small speedboat, and later realized that my mom's conversion from being a died-in-the-wool baptist to the LDS church happened almost exactly a year before I was acquired. Hmmm....

[–] [email protected] 15 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

healthy infants

Every single time an anti-abortionist uses the "just put it up for adoption" argument, I ask them how many babies with disabilities they have adopted or plan to adopt. Weirdly, none of them have ever told me they've adopted a single disabled child.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 12 hours ago

Yup, and even apart from that they say it like it's not a health risk to carry and deliver a baby, a professional risk to even be pregnant, and that separation is lifelong trauma for all involved. It's perfectly possible to raise an adopted kid well enough that it's a not a major component of their personality, but it's a challenge that must be handled.

And that's best case. I'm super pleased to have been born, but honestly I'm not sure my birth mother thrived how she might have if she'd made a different choice with her own body. She's a sweet, sensitive lady and the couple of times I've met her I can tell it weighed on her for decades.