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Women Who Were 'Tradwives' And Got Divorced Are Sharing How And Why They Left Their Marriages, And It's Both Eye-Opening And Infuriating (www.huffpost.com)

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[–] [email protected] 19 points 2 months ago (2 children)

The second anecdote:

"Our relationship started feeling off, emotionally, physically, it all just started falling apart slowly over a year or so. He worked so much, we lived apart when our second child was born because of work. It was a lot. We did therapy and tried all sorts of things until we decided to divorce.

Turned out, my husband was gay, didn't want to ever face it due to his own reasons (parental shaming as a kid, amongst other things) [and had] created the life he thought he should have and had been having affairs online for years.

The article has nothing to do with tradwives. It's anecdotes from people who married the wrong person.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

Nah, the alt-right is full of gay and trans people who are hiding it for whatever reason.

Huge history to right wingers doing this. Trump's mentor Roy Cohn was a gay lawyer who denied he was gay, and even ran something called "The Lavender Scare" (he ran the red scare too truth me told) which was a massive Government interrogation program to weed homosexuals out of government jobs.

So that's Trump's mentor, Roy Cohn. Cohn was also great friends J Edgar Hoover, who was a closet cross dresser... Regan and Nancy had close gay friends they were denying AIDs medicine too ...the right have a whole history with this...

...hell the guy who started the Neo Nazi movement (Michael Kühnen) and led it for decades turned out to be gay.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago (1 children)

It does though.

For example the person you're talkimg about in that second excerpt was a stay-at-home mother of two that homeschooled her children.

The article certainly is a loose collection of experiences with little added value but it is coherent with the title.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago (1 children)

The issue wasn't that she was trad the issue was her man was gay.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago

imho this is an aggravating factor.

Being in a "trad wife" situation implies reinforced heteromormativity, mononormativity, and sexism which are the core issues here.

Being trad wasn't the linchpin but the background noise that helped everything unfold that way.

And it must have sucked ass to be in the position of the husband that felt so contrived by the societal norms around him that he had to lie and cheat his own self discovery journey.