Ah that's very kind and I'd love to take that level of credit but tbh it came from a moment of reflection doing one of those things that we all do when we're young which is to over-examine our previous actions.

Sometimes that's really healthy and in adulthood absolutely imperative (edit: especially as a parent and I try so hard to be a good one) but when you're young that looking back and cringing can lead to unkindness towards yourself when you're still growing into who you'll be.

It was just a decent moment of cop on but it really did serve me well.

Edit: And hey... Don't stress too much about whether you're an adult. As long as you're trying to be a good person and reflect (not too harshly) on your mistakes then jog on, friend.

I don't actually mind if someone's been a cunt to me as long as they reflect on it and say sorry. We're all a cunt occasionally because life isn't smooth. Sometimes external stressors or being caught up in a moment cause you to behave in ways that aren't you and result in regret. That's OK. It's the reflection with intent to improve and communicating it to your loved ones, usually by saying sorry, that's really, really important IMO.