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Showerthoughts

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A "Showerthought" is a simple term used to describe the thoughts that pop into your head while you're doing everyday things like taking a shower, driving, or just daydreaming. The best ones are thoughts that many people can relate to and they find something funny or interesting in regular stuff.

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Due to its asynchronous and discreet nature, people don’t have to be in physical proximity or expect immediate responses.

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I disagree, I believe that when people use the term affair they're explicitly referring to something non consensual which would mean cheating. I've never heard it used to imply anything related to any form of ethical non monogamy. (But I may be wrong.)

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

The way I understand the word, it’s more of a “fling”, or a short-term relation, as opposed to something long-lasting or structured. Which, for example, can be fully okay and include no shadiness if it’s communicated with the partner or partners.

I guess words change meaning over time, and since the default has been monogamy for so long, the word is still stigmatized and associated with cheating since it means something short?

As an example, single people can often be heard to have had vacation affairs, which wouldn’t imply cheating since they are single. But the word is used in that context too.